One who departs from the public to ask specifically for one’s own soul does not build. On the contrary, he inflicts ruin upon his soul (Baal HaSulam, “Not The Time For The Livestock To Be Gathered”).
We must clearly understand that we cannot ask for ourselves! To ask the Creator to lift me up or to bring me closer to Him is pure egoism.
How should I address Him? By asking only for the group, only for its sake, only as a part of it, within it! If I want to advance my friends, I can turn to the Creator. But if I think of my own advancement, it is best not to turn to Him.
When I ask for myself, I destroy my soul. But when I ask for everyone else, I assemble it because there is one soul for everyone. This is the one common Kli of Adam; the only thing we need to think about. After all, a private soul was given to me so that I would constantly be concerned about assembling the common soul.
It is prohibited to be disconnected from the friends, mutual assistance, and mutual support. We cannot live outside of it.
From the International Convention “Rising Above Ourselves” 1/9/22, “Working in Mutual Responsibility Lesson 6