Comment: There are methods engaged in the concept of bestowal. They say that the whole problem of a person is his egoism, which is being aimed at receiving for his own sake, yet most importantly, one must bestow. There is an intention behind every desire. But how can I acquire this intention if I do not have it? By just thinking that I have it?
My Response: This is of course, a good misconception.
If a person relates to himself correctly and analyzes himself correctly, then he sees that he is an absolute egoist, and therefore he cannot have any intentions to bestow.
And even if he thinks that he is giving something, it only seems to him that way because in fact it is a disguised reception.
Therefore, Kabbalah says that we cannot give anything; this quality is completely absent in us, we are absolute egoists. And if we want to change ourselves, then this is possible only by attracting a special upper force, which will create the quality of bestowal in us.
From KabTV’s “Close-Up. Seekers” 9/16/09