Answer: You should show a person that you care and think about him. Send him a text message or e-mail showing interest about how he feels, whether he feels that you are thinking about him, etc. We need to show our concern for others. This example is contagious; then the friend will have to do the same. He will be ashamed that he is behind and is not involved in this.
Question: Wouldn’t this excessive concern stop a person’s development?
Answer: On the contrary, this excites him, annoys, focuses, and directs him to do some work.
When a person sees how his friends take care of him, then it gives him an example and awakens envy: Why isn’t he doing this?
If this happens in a regular, non-Kabbalistic group, then a person, so to speak, “washes his hands” and starts going with the flow. And we have the opposite situation. As it is written in Rabash’s articles, such actions awaken envy and set an example. That is why we have to show this quite clearly and induce a sense of caring in him.
From the Virtual Lesson 12/30/12