You need to get used to the fact that if you begin to scrutinize anything, you always find two opposing attributes inside that, nevertheless, are united. It’s a kind of “splitting.”
If you’re working with an egoistic desire, then everything works out nicely: 1 + 1 = 2. But if you combine the desire to receive with the intention to bestow, they are opposite and cannot unite. In other words, 1 + 1= 3! The third is the Creator. You have to get used to that paradox and accept it as natural; it’s a norm for us.
We are witnesses to such a “paradox” in human society. On the one hand, everyone does everything possible to separate himself from the others, but on the other, people are looking for contact with each other.
It has turned into a mania. There was a case where an entire mobile communication system broke down, people were left without cellular phones, and they just started going crazy. How can it be that everyone wants to be alone, and on the other hand, can’t do without communication with other people?
The fact is that a person wants to be alone for a short while, so that no one will interfere. But together with that people tend to live together: in one big city, in one mass culture. They tend to imitate each other and to do everything the same way as the others. Therefore, one does not negate the other.
A person needs his corner where he can hide, like a bee each in its personal cell. But as soon as one receives such “independence,” he has to feel that he exists among everybody else.
From the 4th part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 12/19/10, “A Handmaid that is Heir to Her Mistress”