When a person realizes how important the group is for his correction, he opens himself up like the hood of a car and lets his friends “do maintenance” inside. In the same manner, a patient gladly stretches himself on the surgical table with the expectation that the doctors will save his life. A person feels that he depends one hundred percent on the good will of the friends and that only with their help will he change, get corrected, and recover from a deadly ailment.
Then, the environment begins working on him. The more he sticks to the friends, the more clearly he is shown how hard it is to turn to them, how appalled he is by it. On one hand, a person understands that he simply must turn to the friends because all his life depends on it, but on the other, egoism and stubbornness don’t allow him to do so. These two qualities are called “hate,” “impure side,” and “filth.”
For example, sometimes we have to apologize to someone and can’t force ourselves to do it. In this situation, I discover two opposite forces: I must do it in order to save myself, yet I can’t. However, I later recognize that my incapacity is caused by a foreign force and, as a result, I gain strength.
This happens at every new degree. I begin to realize that the Creator has arranged everything so that I would hold His hand like a little child who clings to a grown-up. Then, with His help, I will be able to go to the Pharaoh.
This is how we advance until the very end of correction: I recognize the evil of my nature, separate from it, and see that is the Pharaoh, my rival. Then, I desire to get rid of it and ask the Upper Light to do it.
From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/18/10, “Come to Pharaoh”