The Relationship Between the Host and the Guest
Question: What does bestowal to the Creator consist of? After all, the Creator, in essence, does not need any bestowal from our side.
Answer: Let’s take the example of the guest and the host, which Baal HaSulam chose probably because it describes all the nuances of the relationship. On one hand, it seems that the host needs nothing from the guest, but on the other hand, why does He nevertheless make the guest aware of His existence?
He could receive pleasure from the guest without revealing Himself. Does a mother in our world have an intention to reveal herself to the child when she gives anything to him? No, such is simply the nature of her desire to receive. She enjoys even though the child gives nothing back.
Thus, from the perspective of the desire to receive, the host is not obliged to reveal Himself to the guest; the desire to receive already contains fulfillment from the act of giving. Therefore, the desire to reveal Himself to the guest stems from the desire to bestow; through the revelation of the Host, the guest can reach a higher degree than that of a receiver.
We see that Bina does not need any return from Malchut other than receiving MAN, according to which she passes MAD from Aba to Malchut, and nothing more. Why? ZAT of Bina is the desire to receive, therefore she does not need any response from Malchut, which simply receives without any restriction.
But when Bina reveals herself to Malchut, she does not reveal her essence, but her GAR, the desire to bestow that she received from Keter, and wishes to resemble it because Keter is the giver.
Here there is a kind of paradox. If the desire to receive works for the sake of bestowal, then it does not need any response for its own benefit. The desire of the mother (Ima) to receive is fulfilled; she is satisfied by taking from the father (Aba) and passing it on. Her AHP is full, and she enjoys it—just ask from below, and that is enough.
From this we see that even if the Creator had a desire to receive, He still would have no need whatsoever to reveal Himself to the created being, only to give and to enjoy bestowing. Only the necessity to bring the created being to His level obligates the Creator to reveal Himself, not out of a desire to receive, but from a true desire to bestow, in order to build Kelim within the created being, desires to attain His level.
Therefore, when the created being begins to feel the host, it also senses His status. The host is not simply giving to it, for one who gives actually wants to receive pleasure from it, which seems justified to us. But when the host is revealed as perfect, revealing to the created being its own imperfection in comparison, then the created being truly acquires a deficiency (Hisaron).
Now we see that receiving pleasure from the host within the desire to receive is necessary only to maintain the connection, while everything else is based solely on the unfulfilled desire (Hisaron) of the created being to be like the host. Therefore, each time we deepen in the work, in its importance, in any relationship with the Creator, we must relate to Him not as the giver (“Go to the Master who made me”), but as a model for my Hisaron, as the one I must become like.
I must strive for the same qualities, the same properties, the same aspirations that He has. And this is called the “first nine Sefirot” (Tet Rishonot). The rest of the relationship is then built on the interaction between the receiver and the giver, between the Creator and the created being.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 3/28/26, Rabash, “What Is, If He Swallows the Bitter Herb, He Will Not Come Out, in the Work?”
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