Talks about the Steps of the Ladder, Part 288

Is It Possible to Force a Friend to Make Corrections?

It is impossible to force a person to correct themselves, because correction is an inner inclination that exists in the heart. We understand what is bad within us and what we must correct according to the intensity of the light shining on us. Only the light can show us what is bad in us. We can see where the evil is within us only in relation to the light, because ultimately we must become similar to the light. There is a difference between the light of one person and the light of another, that is, the extent to which it shines, the way it shines upon us, its character. We each need different things in order to become adapted to the light. Therefore, correction can take place only in such a way.

It is impossible to take an example or a standard from another person and, according to them, know how we should advance from each and every state. No one can give us the power to change ourselves correctly, and there is no one who can tell us that we have changed correctly. The light fills us according to the change that has taken place in us. Only the light operates and performs all such actions consistently, one after another, within us. Other people can only give us an additional deficiency and a push from the outside. They can arrange additional conditions for us. As Baal HaSulam writes in “The Freedom,” in all these corrections, all that is in our hands is to receive additional deficiency from the society. However, we work with the help of our surrounding light, with the general deficiency that comes with our individual soul, according to its structure.

We, for our part, use the society, and accordingly the society must prepare things for us that, if we wish, we can take from it. The society can provide a general desire for the goal, a schedule, an opportunity for dissemination, study, and social life. To prepare, but not to pressure. We cannot be pressured into correction. A society can obligate a person in general matters according to which the entire society conducts itself, but it cannot come to a friend and say: “This thing in you is bad; you need to correct it.”

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