Question: Should we change our character and attributes to become happier in life?
Answer: No, all we have to do is to connect with one another correctly. By discovering the Creator [1] in this connection everyone remains the same. Moreover, a person doesn’t need to distort himself, pretend to be something else, and engage in eliminating egoism [2]. It is enough to restore the connections between himself and others above the ego.
Question: What is a connection? Is there anything in our world that is similar to it?
Answer: Imagine that you hate someone and love him at the same time. If we calculate the average between these two attitudes and arrive at an average attitude: between your attitude to another and the other’s to you, this will be the right mutual connection.
We assume that a certain attitude is our nature and that we cannot change it, but we can build a small bridge of mutual connection above it. The greater the gap between egoistic hate and altruistic love [3], the higher a person is and the greater is the magnitude of the Creator he discovers between himself and others.
Question: Are these relations similar to the relations between a father and son?
Answer: Absolutely not, a father and a son are connected by relations on the animate level, an animal relationship.
Question: Why aren’t we given an example of the right connection?
Answer: Because we cannot connect the two emotions of love and hate at the same time. But we were given a group of like-minded people in order to build such mutual relations.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 3/13/16
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