Question: One of the principles of the Kabbalistic group is concessions and self-annulment. Is it possible to agree in the family to begin the next day as if nothing happened yesterday by granting amnesty to each other and trying to avoid situations that usually lead to quarrels?
Answer: We need to start every day afresh despite the fact that there may have been some quarrels yesterday. In both the group and the family, we must constantly start afresh as if nothing happened.
Question: How do we do that?
Answer: It is both very simple and very difficult.
Question: Let’s say, today we agree, “Let’s do it in such a way.” What if tomorrow I cannot begin in such a way, what will obligate me?
Answer: If you have signed such an agreement, you will be proud to observe it. Your egoism does not suffer, and it will be easier for you to step over it.
In fact, you do not even step over it; rather, you just show how much of a man you are, “Even though I do not want to, I must do that because I promised.” And you will have something to be proud of.
As for your wife, she will have to agree with your new behavior.
Question: Is there any difference between the egoism of a woman and egoism of a man?
Answer: These are completely different types of egoism. They cannot be combined in any way.
From KabTV’s “Fundamentals of Kabbalah,” 12/31/18