Entries in the 'Women’s Spirituality' Category

How Should A Married Woman Advance?

Laitman_630_2Question: How should a married woman advance spiritually?

Answer: Being married has nothing to do with spiritual advancement. In regard to the spiritual, we are all “free birds,” and we each have our own soul.

If your husband doesn’t study Kabbalah or if you are single, then you should join a Kabbalistic group. You should start helping the men’s part in the group and working on connecting with other woman. Then, everything will be fine.

You will see how much more you will receive, feel, and advance in your understanding of the Kabbalistic materials
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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A Ticket To The Upper World

laitman_281_02Question: Is there a difference between the way men and women develop spiritually, and if so, what is it?

Answer: The Creator draws everyone to him, but women who feel an attraction to spirituality are in a preferable state compared to men, both qualitatively and in quantitatively. Women need to study just like men, but women should observe the appropriate separation between men and women; we have talked about it often.

Women don’t have to study TES (Talmud Eser Sefirot), which describes the upper system of the worlds if they are not attracted to it. A woman doesn’t need to undergo correction on such a level because her correction is achieved by helping the male part of the group.

Everything else is the same: women’s tens, women’s circles, women getting closer to each other, which is the most difficult thing for them, but this is actually what they should engage in because, in contrast to men, women don’t feel the need to be surrounded by other women.

A man feels the friends: they are all one group, embracing, advancing together in whichever direction they want. And women don’t feel that. They are by nature more individualistic, and so they need to draw closer together. Not to the same degree men do, of course, they are not required to do that. Women need to surround the men, help them, support them, and so move forward.

If a woman helps her husband and does everything so that he can advance spiritually, she receives through him to the degree that she helps him. If, in addition, she can work in a group of women and help not only her husband but the group of men, it provides her with an “entrance ticket” to the upper world.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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There Is No Coercion In Spirituality

laitman_600_02Question: I love a woman and I want to study the wisdom of Kabbalah. The woman I love neither supports nor objects to this, but I have a feeling that she has a point in the heart. It could be that she hides it deep in her heart.

Can I ask the Creator to strengthen and intensify the point in her heart so that we can advance together toward the Creator? How can I influence the Creator to impact her so that she will realize that our life together and the wisdom of Kabbalah are the most important thing to us and to the whole world?

Answer: Spiritual development depends on one’s desire so coercion is impossible and forbidden, as one either has a desire or not. You should think about yourself and perhaps her desire will awaken through you.

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Blitz Of Kabbalah Tips – 6/26/16

Laitman_630_2Question: Should a husband and a wife study in the same Kabbalah group or is it better if they study in separate groups?

Answer: They should study in the same group since men and women have different groups of ten any way.

Question: What is the right prayer for my husband?

Answer: Creator! I am asking you to help my husband be closer to me,” and that’s all!

Question: How should we avoid imposing our spiritual states, our egoistic assessments, and our personal views on to each other? How should I respond if my wife shares her feelings about the lessons with me?

Answer: You should treat her as your friend and not as your wife. When you engage in spiritual work, she is your friend and this is a small group for the two of you.

Question: Is the family at risk in the corporeal sense if a husband and a wife in the spiritual sense are both men?

Answer: No, they mutually impact each other each according to each one’s spiritual essence. What is more, their spiritual essence has nothing to do with corporeality. Therefore there is no nullification, but rather the opposite, they can express themselves better in the male or the female form, but it is important to support and keep the corporeal family life.

Question: How does the wisdom of Kabbalah explain unity and the struggle between opposites?

Answer: There is no struggle between opposites. There is only struggle for unity.

Question: Is the point in the heart a male or a female attribute?

Answer: The point in the heart is considered a male attribute. It isn’t a man in our world, but the attribute of bestowal, which can be typical of women just like men.

Question: Is there a difference between the words “friend” and “companion” according to the wisdom of Kabbalah?

Answer: No, friend, buddy, and companion are synonymous. What is important is the relationship, the connection, the yearning for a connection between you and the Creator.

Question: What is betrayal in the spiritual path?

Answer: A change of intention from bestowal and yearning for the Creator to the opposite direction.

Question: What are the criteria according to which a woman should choose a husband in order to build a family?

Answer: First, they have to be physically compatible to each other, and second, they have to have a desire to mutually concede to each other.

Question: What can you wish for our men?

Answer: Let’s learn to give in to our women, but I would also like to say the same thing to the women. Mutual consent is what builds the right connection between friends, in a family, and between our children and us. Let’s all learn this. Good luck and happiness to all of you!
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 6/26/16

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Regarding Men, Women, And Corrected Souls

laitman_622_01Question: Why must all of the men listen to the morning lessons live, while the women can do so later? Is it because they are more corrected?

Answer: It is because we are different from each other.

Question: Are women more “corrected” than men? Does a “higher plan” specifically insert more corrected souls into the bodies of women?

Answer: Yes, they are more corrected; they don’t feel their flaws.

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The Spiritual World Is A World Of Intentions

laitman_571_03Question: In a family, if the wife leads and the husband agrees with this, how is this reflected in their spiritual development?

Answer: There is no need to relate to the physical gender! Understandably this is also connected to the manner and the attitude toward the world and perception. But in spirituality there is no importance to this, because in spirituality the main thing is the desire! Moreover, the form of the desire has no importance. The important thing is if the desire is directed toward yourself or toward others. A desire directed toward yourself is called female and a desire directed toward others is called male.

A woman who goes out in the evening to disseminate Kabbalistic material is carrying out the work of a man, this activity is considered male. A man who sits at home, watches soccer and drinks beer is considered female in this action. But if he remains at home with a child to make it possible for the woman to be engaged in dissemination, then he is considered male, because it is the intention that determines everything. In spirituality, there are no genders; our world doesn’t exist! The spiritual world is a world of intentions!
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 6/26/16

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Men And Women Are The Outcome Of Spiritual Roots

laitman_627_2Question: Why is there a division into male and female in the physical bodies in the vegetative and the animal world if there is no difference between the sexes in spirituality?

Answer: It is because our upper root is the Creator, the One who bestows, who gives, who extracts from Himself and radiates the Light, while the created being is a desire, emptiness, that wants to receive the Light and be filled by it. These two elements are what all of creation is made of, the Creator and the created being.

Therefore, in our world we are the outcomes of these two spiritual roots—the Creator and the created being. In our world a man is like the earthly embodiment of the Creator and the woman is the embodiment of the created being. But this is only a conditional differentiation in our world; we shouldn’t pay attention to it—both men and women need to attain complete equivalence of form with the Creator, and they will attain it internally in the form of the full interconnection between them.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 6/26/16

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Men And Women In The Spiritual Work

laitman_259_01Question: Why do women study separately from men?

Answer: Men and women should study separately so that they will not engage in corporeal forms of communication instead of in spirituality. The wisdom of Kabbalah doesn’t consider people to be angels, and so love and sexuality should not be mixed with spirituality. This is very important. This is the reason that men don’t study with women in a group of ten, and don’t sit together at the same table.

A group has to be made of two equal subgroups: the men’s group and the women’s group. Other than the study itself, they should help each other in preparing meals, cleaning, the maintenance of the facilities, etc.; the main thing is not to interfere in each other’s spiritual intentions. Wherever there are no spiritual intentions involved, there should be the usual mutual cooperation.

Question: Are there men and women in the world today whose level of development enables them to be in a group of ten together without interfering with each other’s spirituality?

Answer: There are many groups of ten men and many groups of ten women and each works wonderfully and advances, but it is still too early to combine them. They have to be behind a Masach (screen) above the Tzimtzum (restriction), in the attribute of bestowal, outside themselves, and this state has to be permanent. The groups should not be mixed during the spiritual work because if they are, their attention would be drawn to the sexual differences.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 6/26/16

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A Kabbalist’s Mission

laitman_547_03Question: What is the mission of a person who studies the wisdom of Kabbalah?

Answer: A person who studies the wisdom of Kabbalah, and I emphasize a person and not a man, has to make sure that he perfectly corrects his part in the general system called creation or Adam (Man), in his relationships with all created beings on the levels of the still, vegetative, animate, and the speaking nature, and through them, his relations with the Creator.

If this is what he does, he is called man, Adam, who resembles the Creator no matter whether it is a man or woman in our world. In our world, a man can do much more intensive work than a woman because he has a bigger ego and a lesser yearning for the Creator.
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Physical And Spiritual Life

Laitman_506_5Question: As a result of my study of the wisdom of Kabbalah, I am losing interest in my husband more and more because he doesn’t understand this study at all. How should I relate to him so as not to destroy the marriage and maintain mutual respect and love?

Answer: Do not confuse physical life with spiritual life. They have different goals. Physical life is a responsibility to continue the generation and educate children, and couples can respect each other and help each other with this. Interest and love don’t last long, as psychologists claim, but responsibility and love resulting from support and children are eternal.

Love appears as a result of mutual concessions and assistance, and is not at first sight. It is a result of life and not its beginning.

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