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Thanks to Women’s Support

632.3Question: How can we attract the light of Hochma, clothe it with Hassadim, and receive it in a good way and not through suffering? Does it depend on us or on the readiness of the world?

Answer: It is written: “Thanks to righteous women, the children of Israel came out of Egypt.” So if not everything, then a lot depends on women. Therefore, I appeal to women so that we think about and strengthen this part of our Kli.

Naturally, as is customary in our organization, we have absolute and complete equality. We do everything that is necessary with the same effort, both women and men.
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From the 2nd part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 1/17/24, “Preparation to the Convention”

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The Spiritual Work of Couples

627.1Question: My husband and I both study using our method. How can we reach concessions if we are both very hot-tempered?

Answer: Start competing with each other to see who will concede more to the other.

Question: If I get married, I am afraid that the Creator will lose His importance to me and fade into the background. Can love for another person interfere with the spiritual path?

Answer: No. True love for the Creator never interferes with the love for a person.

Question: I have been studying for 12 years, but my husband does not study Kabbalah. However I see how, during this period, his approach to Kabbalah changed from absolute hatred to a high reverent attitude toward you and the methodology. At first, I felt only one-sided fulfillment, not in a mutual connection, but from the moment he began to be imbued with the ideas of Kabbalah, a new mutual connection appeared between us. What is this transition from one-way fulfillment to mutual connection?

Answer: A new Kli has appeared from the two of you, and you feel it. But this is just the beginning, then you will feel much more.

Question: How can I be sure that my chosen one is the woman with whom I will serve the Creator together?

Answer: You must feel this, according to the goal you must reach. First, your chosen one should aim toward the same spiritual goal.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 11/19/23, Writings of Rabash “Discernments in States“

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Everyone Needs Unity!

627.2Question: It is no secret that it is very difficult for women to unite. Where can we get the strength that would push us to unite?

What should prayer be like to strengthen us?

Answer: A prayer for unity. There is no need to complain about the fact that you are women and it is harder for you than for men. There are some actions that are easier for a woman to perform than for a man. With regard to their egoism, each person receives suitable strength.
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From the 1st part of the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 11/20/23, Writings of Rabash “What It Means that the World Was Created for the Torah”

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Guided by Feelings

506.1Question: In practice we see that in a married couple one manages one process and the second one another. How is equality between husband and wife achieved?

Answer: It is impossible to measure. It is just that everyone wants to please the other. Therefore, there are no calculations here of how much I did for you and how much you did for me. You will never reach a real connection in this way.

You should be guided by feelings and not by rational calculation: “You for me, and I for you.”

Question: Does it mean that until we come to the correction of our qualities in spirituality we will not be able to come to the correct corporeal relationship between husband and wife?

Answer: On the contrary, first, you need to correct your qualities in corporeality and then move to spirituality.
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From the Daily Kabbalah lesson 11/19/23, Writings of Rabash “Discernments in States“

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Everything Depends on the Purity of the Heart

627.1Question: If the covenant of salt is the covenant of our hearts, do we need to describe some points of this covenant or will they play no role?

Answer: They will not play any role. Here everything depends on the purity of the heart and thoughts. This is the most important thing.

People who study in our groups, if they are also spouses, have a lot of help from above from the Creator. They can really achieve a lot if they mutually help each other in spiritual matters.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 11/15/23, Writings of Baal HaSulam “On All Your Offerings You Shall Offer Salt“

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One Desire for Two

625.05Question: If the Creator gives a man and a woman connection through the heart, then is each one ready to do anything for the other?

Answer: I do not know how ready they are for everything, but if they are coming toward each other to be together and each one does what his partner wants from him, then they form a common desire in which the Creator is revealed.

Question: But the Creator also gives them this desire?

Answer: No, they must create this desire themselves. Each of them has their own desire, so they need to connect with each other to have one desire for both of them in which they do not feel any difference.

This should be such a fusion, a striving for each other when there is nothing else left but a feeling of unity.
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From the Daily Kabbalah lesson 11/19/23, Writings of Rabash “Discernments in States“

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Problems of Women’s Unification

549.02Question: Usually in women’s unification the evil spirit clearly manifests itself when emotions, especially negative ones, begin to simmer between us. How can we properly process these emotions so that they serve the good inclination?

Answer: Think only good about your friends, and everything will be fine. And let all the negative emotions be directed against your enemies. This is how it should be.

Comment: We feel the separate desires of our friends not at the same time, but as if in turn, and we do not succeed in coming to a single heart.

My Response: This is a real problem. Think about how you can come to one common desire, intention, and goal so that you have it all as one. And then you will win.
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From the Daily Kabbalah Lesson 10/13/23, “Fighting the evil inclination”

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549.02Question: What is this inner human need a person has for someone else to live next to him? It is not just the satisfaction of some material needs, for example, food or laundry. What is there in this that a person may not notice?

Answer: We are created like this. In principle, nature had some kind of purpose, in which both the male and female parts of man existed together. Then this purpose became split into separate parts: male and female. Therefore, we still need the female part because it cannot be together with the male in the same body. That is the way we exist. Not only we, but also inanimate, vegetative, and animate nature are built on the same principle.

Question: In Kabbalah, we study that a man must necessarily have a female part next to him. Previously, Kabbalists did not allow a man to study at all if he was not married. Why were there such restrictions?

Answer: If a man is not married, then, according to Kabbalah, he is considered an incomplete person. That is, he has no expression through the female part, through the female side. A woman cannot help him in his spiritual advancement.

And it is all the more important for a woman to have a man because without a man she cannot advance spiritually.

In principle, we can say that they are in the same condition: they are necessary for each other precisely for spiritual advancement, so that by yielding to and understanding each other, they could correct themselves.
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From KabTV’s “Kabbalah in the modern turbulent world” 8/3/23

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A Man Is like a Bush in the Wind without a Woman

961.2Comment: This is story from the Internet.

One evening, Winston Churchill and his wife decided to take a walk around London. When they were passing through one of the cozy courtyards, a janitor approached them. To the surprise of the Prime Minister, the janitor spoke not to him but to the First Lady.

After this conversation, Churchill asked his wife: “Why did he talk to you with such interest?” She replied that in her teenage years, he was madly in love with her. Prime Minister Churchill said, “See, if you had married him, you would now be the wife of a janitor.” Churchill’s wife replied: “No, if I had married him, he would have become Prime minister.”

Here we have this eternal question: who makes whom? As they say, there is a woman behind every successful man. Is there a spiritual root in this or not?

My Response: In most cases.

Question: Does it mean that in most cases I cannot develop by myself and my wife has to push me all the time?

Answer: It means a lot. A man without female support is like a bush or a tree in the wind.

Question: Why is this so?

Answer: Although she cannot do anything, when she puts pressure on him, she supports him.

Question: But she does not tell him: “You will be Prime Minister. I want you to become Prime Minister.” Or does she say it internally?

Answer: She can say it. But this is what he needs.

Question: So, do we need nudges all the time?

Answer: Yes. Without a strong woman next to a man, a man is powerless.

Question: Is there some spiritual root in this?

Answer: Of course! Because together they make one common whole.

This female part, the desire to receive is what forces a man to work correctly.

Question: Is the inner female thought so that women do not take offense: “You have to fulfill me”?

Answer: Yes.

Question: You can fulfill me with your power, and so on and so forth? |And she pushes him?

Answer: Of course. You see Churchill agreed.

Question: Not only Churchill, we see in history what happened. Behind each one stood some fragile, even quiet woman. Did Sarah move Abraham in the same way? Or was there some different situation?

Answer: The Creator said to Abraham: “Listen to what Sarah says to you.” So, apparently, it was even tougher there.

Question: How should we men behave in this case? Surrender or resist? Or, on the contrary, am I guided by a woman? What should a family tango be like in this case if we know that this is happening?

Answer: There should be mutual support. A husband should provide for his wife financially, a wife should support her husband spiritually.
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From KabTV’s “News with Dr. Michael Laitman” 6/12/23

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A Spiritual Cell

506.2Question: Are there any restrictions in mixing the souls, i.e., in spiritual mixture? We often talk about mutual integration when one person accepts the desires of the other. But on the corporeal level, everything is kind of determined: here I am, here are my wife and children.

Answer: This comes from the fact that the husband, wife, and their children are one spiritual cell. It is just that in our world it was divided into a male part and a female part, but in the spiritual world it is one Partzuf, Aviut (thickness), and Zakut (purity, subtlety), desire, and Masach (screen), which work together.

Therefore, in spirituality, there are no separately existing female and male parts. Their joint work generates the next state called children.

Therefore, in our world, we are arranged in such a way that we are grouped into families. In the spiritual state, there can be no confusion with husbands and wives, and everyone will find their other half.
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From KabTV’s “I Got a Call. Promiscuous Sex” 5/14/11

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