Entries in the 'Women’s Spirituality' Category

The Spiritual Component And Earthly Love

Laitman_121Question: How can one correctly add a spiritual component to earthly love between husband and wife?

Answer: It is possible to add a spiritual component between husband and wife only when they understand what they are doing and why they exist.

They must realize that they have a unique opportunity to conduct themselves in all situations in life in such a way that they train on each other in mutual influence. Then they will be able to attain the revelation of the Creator, as it is written: “A husband and wife have, the Shechina between them.”

But only if they really are serious about achieving that goal. Because they must “step on themselves” and help each other.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 8/6/17

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Could The Book Of Zohar Have Been Written By Ten Women?

laitman_260.01Question: Hypothetically, could The Book of Zohar have been written by ten women?

Answer: Hypothetically, yes. However, we are organized in such a way that the aspiration for spiritual unity between people resides with the men, while the force of supporting and uniting the men resides with the women.

This is why our world is initially divided into the opposite qualities: male and female, bestowal and reception. In Kabbalah, this is studied very seriously, for it is a cornerstone of our relationships with each other.

Generally, how do two men unite with each other? One in some way is a man in relation to the other, and the other in some way is a woman toward the first one. Obviously, we are not talking about physiology or psychology, nor anything related to our worldly notions, but only spiritual qualities. Any spiritual discernment that we reveal in us consists of a male and female part.

In our world, until we enter the level of the upper world, men naturally have an advantage here. They are considered crucial and of paramount importance in Kabbalistic societies.

The women form into groups around men and start receiving the spiritual qualities through them because the men make the breakthrough in this, as they do in everything else in this world; they are always the discoverers, builders, and destroyers—and the women follow behind.

However, when the men’s breakthroughs are followed by the women’s “battalions,” the result is the creation of spiritual qualities and the development of new souls. There is an activation of the feminine qualities, which are not simply complementary, but very essential, that come out to the forefront and start working on the spiritual planes.

Question: So the fundamental demand comes from the women?

Answer: Yes, it says many times in the Torah, that you have to listen to your wife, a woman.

The Torah is written in a very interesting way; despite the fact that it seemingly talks about men, there is always a woman somewhere that privately directs them, like a wife in a family.

A man is considered the head of the family, but in reality, whatever part of the world I ever visited and anyone I ever asked: the Indians in South America or anyone else, not to mention in European countries, or the Africans, the woman is always the foundation of life, the foundation of the world. And the same holds true in Kabbalah.

However, the breakthrough happens through the masculine force, which is followed, supported, pushed, influenced, and even directed by the feminine force.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 6/4/17

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Wonder Woman, Part 4

laitman_629_3Question: Usually, movies made by women directors are not as popular as films directed by men. However, the film Wonder Woman with both a female director and main character received great acclaim.

Does this reflect a particular spirit of our time, that it is a woman who is expected to be a hero and a savior?

Answer: There were a lot of women throughout history that played leading roles. The first example: Adam and Eve, because of whom the entire history of humanity started unfolding. Then, Abraham’s wife Sarah, the prophetesses that the Torah talks about: Rachel, Leah, Yael, Miriam, Deborah, Hulda, and even Pharaoh’s daughter Batya. We see that the women in the Torah act in no less emphasized way than the men.

Question: What qualities should such a “super-woman” possess?

Answer: The super-woman is the one directing her children and her husband toward the correction of the world, toward the good connection. That is why Abraham was told: “Listen to what Sarah tells you.”

Such a woman has the power of bestowal and love for a friend. A woman understands that this is the only way that the world can exist. She has an even greater ability of overcoming herself than a man does, because she has the power of giving birth.

A man frequently remains a child that only wants to play around. A woman has a much more serious take on life by nature because she is connected with nature’s principles, with the system producing life. That is why women that come to study Kabbalah display a very serious attitude and desire toward correction.

A super-woman is the one that possesses the internal force to overcome a person’s inner nature that is directed at using others for self-benefit and to start treating them as if they were her children, as members of her family. She is ready to give and help in everything, as in the family, instead of receiving egoistically.

Heroism is in stepping out of the borders of her family toward which she feels natural love and relating to the whole world as if they are all her children.

Question: Let’s say a woman starts relating this way to the world. How can she influence others and advance them toward correction?

Answer: A woman has a great influence in the world. As soon as she starts behaving like such a heroine, her abilities become endless. She can turn everyone around her toward love and bestowal.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 6/8/17

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Men And Women: Being Content With One’s Lot

Laitman_049_01Comment: I wouldn’t like to be a man in any of my other lives. This would be the greatest punishment for me! We see that everything is based on women, and a man is an eternal child.

A woman is basically smarter; she is both a mother and a leader. She is responsible, serious, peaceful, and hard working, and she has many qualities that are simply not developed enough or are lacking in a man.

My Response: I believe that what you say indicates your lack of understanding because you feel flawed in your female image and form. It is as if you are condemning the Creator for having created men like that.

A self-sufficient person is filled spiritually, has a goal, and tries to move toward it correctly; in this one has no calculation with the other sex. One simply advances.

As the saying goes: “Be content with one’s lot.”
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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Men And Women: You Must Reorganize Our World

laitman_721_3Question: How and when must a woman be seriously involved with the wisdom of Kabbalah if so many tasks are imposed upon her: work, family, a husband, and children?

Answer: We need to reorganize our world so that men will earn enough money for what the family needs to exist and women will be able to stay at home, deal with family matters, and educate the children, herself, and her husband. The man must engage with work only to support the family and to study the wisdom of Kabbalah.

Question: Do you believe that there will be a turn in this direction in the world?

Answer: Nothing will succeed otherwise. What will we do with billions of unemployed, with people who are not needed? With what will they be involved?

They must be taught and educated. Gradually, they will create normal families who will be compatible with the spiritual root. Without being compatible with the spiritual root, we will not reach the completion of correction, neither physically nor spiritually.
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To See A Worthy Husband

laitman_543_02Question: How can a woman rise to such a spiritual degree that will let her see a worthy husband in every bachelor?

Answer: You don’t have to be on a high spiritual degree for this. On the contrary, lower your nose to the material world and everything will be all right. You will immediately see worthy men around you.

Don’t assume airs, it’s not good. You will lose.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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Family And A Woman’s Spiritual Development

laitman_571_06Question: Does not having a husband, children, and a family affect a woman’s spiritual development?

Answer: No. If it didn’t work out for her to have a family, it doesn’t not affect her spiritual development, but if she can do it, why not seize the opportunity?
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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Women’s Spiritual Purpose

laitman_281_02Question: Are the Kabbalistic friendship, love, and mutual responsibility possible between women? Or is such a depth of mutual spiritual inclusion more typical of men?

Answer: Yes, it is more typical of men. It is much harder for women to become friends. They can unite among themselves only in order to help the men. This is their purpose and this is how they should behave.

It is practically impossible for one woman to be a true friend of another woman. Yet, to achieve the upper goal, to help the men and to connect with the Creator, they can unite with each other because they have a specific goal that isn’t between them, but above them.

Question: Who is more egoistic, men or women?

Answer: They have different type of egoism. Therefore, I can’t say who is more egoistic. It is easier for men to be connected with each other, and for women it is easier to be directed to the goal.
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From KabTV’s Lesson in Russian 11/12/16

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The Specificity Of Women’s Work

laitman_560Question: Although we women actively work in the tens, awaken each other, without which it seems like something important is missing, at the same time, we are far from constantly dedicating ourselves to the benefit of the friends.

How can we come to the importance of this work and live by it? How can we acquire this sensitivity? How do I come to the fear that the Creator will leave me, not because I won’t be able to work in order to feel good, but because I won’t be able to become like Him?

Answer: The specificity of women’s spiritual work is also in the fact that she completely requires the men’s group and support. This relates to the stage before the Machsom is acquired. After that, a person’s soul will teach him.
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Men And Women: Overcoming Desires

laitman_628_4Question: Will men and women ever be able to overcome their basic desires and treat each other above their ego?

Answer: No, this can happen only when all of humanity begins to ascend to the spiritual level, when we exit the framework of life in a body and lose the sensation that we are living in a corporeal world.

Then, we will not be called men or women but particles of the one, general soul.

Question: Does that mean that a Kabbalist cannot relate to a certain woman as a friend and that they cannot have a common ten?

Answer: Never! There can never be a common ten. This will only divert them from the path, and it is better not to start that.

We will not be able to leap above our human desires for food, sex, family, wealth, respect, and knowledge. We can only use these desires, but we must not nullify the differences. What is more, sexual desires remain until the end because they relate to the connection between all of the created beings and the Creator.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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