Entries in the 'Women’s Spirituality' Category

Men And Women: Being Content With One’s Lot

Laitman_049_01Comment: I wouldn’t like to be a man in any of my other lives. This would be the greatest punishment for me! We see that everything is based on women, and a man is an eternal child.

A woman is basically smarter; she is both a mother and a leader. She is responsible, serious, peaceful, and hard working, and she has many qualities that are simply not developed enough or are lacking in a man.

My Response: I believe that what you say indicates your lack of understanding because you feel flawed in your female image and form. It is as if you are condemning the Creator for having created men like that.

A self-sufficient person is filled spiritually, has a goal, and tries to move toward it correctly; in this one has no calculation with the other sex. One simply advances.

As the saying goes: “Be content with one’s lot.”
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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Men And Women: You Must Reorganize Our World

laitman_721_3Question: How and when must a woman be seriously involved with the wisdom of Kabbalah if so many tasks are imposed upon her: work, family, a husband, and children?

Answer: We need to reorganize our world so that men will earn enough money for what the family needs to exist and women will be able to stay at home, deal with family matters, and educate the children, herself, and her husband. The man must engage with work only to support the family and to study the wisdom of Kabbalah.

Question: Do you believe that there will be a turn in this direction in the world?

Answer: Nothing will succeed otherwise. What will we do with billions of unemployed, with people who are not needed? With what will they be involved?

They must be taught and educated. Gradually, they will create normal families who will be compatible with the spiritual root. Without being compatible with the spiritual root, we will not reach the completion of correction, neither physically nor spiritually.
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To See A Worthy Husband

laitman_543_02Question: How can a woman rise to such a spiritual degree that will let her see a worthy husband in every bachelor?

Answer: You don’t have to be on a high spiritual degree for this. On the contrary, lower your nose to the material world and everything will be all right. You will immediately see worthy men around you.

Don’t assume airs, it’s not good. You will lose.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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Family And A Woman’s Spiritual Development

laitman_571_06Question: Does not having a husband, children, and a family affect a woman’s spiritual development?

Answer: No. If it didn’t work out for her to have a family, it doesn’t not affect her spiritual development, but if she can do it, why not seize the opportunity?
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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Women’s Spiritual Purpose

laitman_281_02Question: Are the Kabbalistic friendship, love, and mutual responsibility possible between women? Or is such a depth of mutual spiritual inclusion more typical of men?

Answer: Yes, it is more typical of men. It is much harder for women to become friends. They can unite among themselves only in order to help the men. This is their purpose and this is how they should behave.

It is practically impossible for one woman to be a true friend of another woman. Yet, to achieve the upper goal, to help the men and to connect with the Creator, they can unite with each other because they have a specific goal that isn’t between them, but above them.

Question: Who is more egoistic, men or women?

Answer: They have different type of egoism. Therefore, I can’t say who is more egoistic. It is easier for men to be connected with each other, and for women it is easier to be directed to the goal.
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From KabTV’s Lesson in Russian 11/12/16

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The Specificity Of Women’s Work

laitman_560Question: Although we women actively work in the tens, awaken each other, without which it seems like something important is missing, at the same time, we are far from constantly dedicating ourselves to the benefit of the friends.

How can we come to the importance of this work and live by it? How can we acquire this sensitivity? How do I come to the fear that the Creator will leave me, not because I won’t be able to work in order to feel good, but because I won’t be able to become like Him?

Answer: The specificity of women’s spiritual work is also in the fact that she completely requires the men’s group and support. This relates to the stage before the Machsom is acquired. After that, a person’s soul will teach him.
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Men And Women: Overcoming Desires

laitman_628_4Question: Will men and women ever be able to overcome their basic desires and treat each other above their ego?

Answer: No, this can happen only when all of humanity begins to ascend to the spiritual level, when we exit the framework of life in a body and lose the sensation that we are living in a corporeal world.

Then, we will not be called men or women but particles of the one, general soul.

Question: Does that mean that a Kabbalist cannot relate to a certain woman as a friend and that they cannot have a common ten?

Answer: Never! There can never be a common ten. This will only divert them from the path, and it is better not to start that.

We will not be able to leap above our human desires for food, sex, family, wealth, respect, and knowledge. We can only use these desires, but we must not nullify the differences. What is more, sexual desires remain until the end because they relate to the connection between all of the created beings and the Creator.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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Why Does A Man Need A Woman?

Laitman_632_1Question: Why does a man need a woman for his spiritual development so much?

Answer: On the one hand, a woman helps him; on the other hand, she completes him. A man is called, “Guf’s plague” (half a body) because without the female part, he is basically a half.

The woman is not a half, but specifically he is. Therefore, he must complete his egoistic nature through a woman to the degree necessary to rise and develop spiritually.

This is not necessary for a woman because by herself she is already prepared for spiritual development.

If a man wants to attain spirituality, he must be married, but a woman doesn’t need to be married, because it does not depend on her. But at the same time, she must aspire to have a family.

Being in a family unit both for men and women is the best situation from which a Kabbalist can grow. With a woman, it is as it turns out, while for a man, he must have a family.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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Men And Women: Differences In Spiritual Work

Laitman_089Question: The nature of men and women is very different physically and psychologically and their spiritual roots are also different. Can these differences exist in the context of spiritual work and unification in a group of ten men in contrast to a group of ten women?

Answer: In spiritual work there are no differences between groups of men and women. The only condition is that their tens work separately, otherwise attraction to the opposite sex and so forth can be mixed with Kabbalah. It is impossible to do this in any other way. Men and women should each be in their own group while studying at events, workshops, and everything.

Question: How can we bring about the unity of the whole world if we separate men from women ourselves? Has the time come in which all of us, men and women, unite in our spiritual work?

Answer: When we stop feeling the ego and stop relating to our physical bodies, then the difference between men and women will disappear. Then the sexual attraction to women will not interfere with our attainment of the upper world because only that will attract us then.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 10/30/16

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A Woman Who Supports Her Husband Will Achieve Spirituality

Laitman_631_3Question: In history, were there cases in which the man was engaged with the wisdom of Kabbalah and his wife sat at home with the children, but by supporting him she also reached spiritual attainment?

Answer: We have examples like this. Two thousand years ago, the wife of Rabbi Akiva, who helped him in everything, reached the greatest heights of attainment.

Question: Could there be a situation today where a woman who supports her husband reaches spirituality without opening a book even once?

Answer: If a woman supports her husband in everything, devoting herself with all her desire, the husband can even be lazy, but if she pushes him forward, obligates and helps, she can attain more than he. Everything depends on the yearning of the person. Moreover, a woman’s desire is more demanding and serious.

I cannot say what is preferable in our world, being a man or a woman, everything depends on luck. If a woman has a serious and proper yearning for the goal, then it could be that her realization as a physical woman and as a spiritual man will be more successful.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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