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How Can We Keep The Family United?

laitman_623Question: Can you give some advice according to the wisdom of Kabbalah as to how we can keep the family united?

Answer: My advice to a married couple is: have children and agree that divorce is not an option. The couple should try to get along with each other.

We are living in hard times where each of us experiences difficult problems. All this must be accepted since we cannot change it. No matter how much we promise ourselves and others to be good and nice, this evaporates very quickly because we have no control over ourselves.

The family should be a strong cell that can clearly be called indestructible despite everything. Children should feel that they have a mother and a father that they can turn to, that they have a family.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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Men And Women: Being Content With One’s Lot

Laitman_049_01Comment: I wouldn’t like to be a man in any of my other lives. This would be the greatest punishment for me! We see that everything is based on women, and a man is an eternal child.

A woman is basically smarter; she is both a mother and a leader. She is responsible, serious, peaceful, and hard working, and she has many qualities that are simply not developed enough or are lacking in a man.

My Response: I believe that what you say indicates your lack of understanding because you feel flawed in your female image and form. It is as if you are condemning the Creator for having created men like that.

A self-sufficient person is filled spiritually, has a goal, and tries to move toward it correctly; in this one has no calculation with the other sex. One simply advances.

As the saying goes: “Be content with one’s lot.”
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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Blitz Of Kabbalah Tips – 12/4/16

laitman_600_04Question: Do men and women have a different perception of the world?

Answer: Of course, it is different in many ways and cannot be compared. We may hear, see, and perceive things differently, but the difference between us cannot be compared since there is no basis for comparison.

Question: Can a homosexual study the wisdom of Kabbalah?

Answer: This is a problem. A person has to follow his sexual inclination. It is beyond one’s powers.

Question: What happens in a man if the female part dominates him?

Answer: Nothing happens. He still has to engage in the wisdom of Kabbalah, it makes no difference.

Question: How can a woman with a traditional view of life ,who expects the man to be the breadwinner, psychologically overcome the fact that she makes more money than the man?

Answer: What difference does it make? The couple must first of all feel each other and be friends.

Question: Is it easier for a man to develop spiritually in a family because his wife takes care of him and easier for a woman to develop spiritually when she is not married because then no one stands in her way?

Answer: A woman should try to get married, but if it doesn’t work out, she can attain the upper world by herself unlike an unmarried man.

Question: How does alcohol impact the relations between a man and a woman?

Answer: In a very negative way; in every case and aspect of it. I am against it.

Question: Do I have to make every effort in order to win the heart of a girl I think is cute?

Answer: You should make every effort to win the heart of a good girl, not a pretty girl.

Question: I really envy my husband, how can I overcome that?

Answer: Envy is a very hard and restricting feeling. The best thing to do is to delve more deeply into the wisdom of Kabbalah and gradually understand that a body is a body and a soul is a soul. Stay together and try to envy the Creator and so that the Creator will envy you. Your husband is your companion for the period of earthly existence.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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New Life #847 – Together And Alone

New Life #847 – Together And Alone
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel


By being finely integrated we can attain the internal system of nature, together as one.

In the past we used to connect to those who were like us. Today we have to learn how to connect above any differences, above the divisiveness, in order to attain the mutual force of giving.
From KabTV’s “New Life #847 – Together And Alone,” 4/4/17

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New Life #846 – Loneliness

New Life #846 – Loneliness
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel


Why do we feel lonely? How can we bridge the gap between the world that is becoming interconnected and the ego that is asking to divide us?
From KabTV’s “New Life #846 – Loneliness,” 4/4/17

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Feminine Element

laitman_600_02Question: According to the wisdom of Kabbalah a man is composed of two parts, masculine and feminine. What is the significance of the feminine element in a man?

Answer: The feminine element in a man is the force that drives him from within to search, to spiritual flight. Why does the feminine element give a man a lift but not to a woman? It is because she is pushing his masculine part. But in the feminine element, the desire to receive, there is no masculine element.

Question: If so, is the feminine part of a man more important?

Answer: The feminine part is more important everywhere. If Eve had not existed, we would exist as amorphous spiritual matter.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/17

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Men And Women: You Must Reorganize Our World

laitman_721_3Question: How and when must a woman be seriously involved with the wisdom of Kabbalah if so many tasks are imposed upon her: work, family, a husband, and children?

Answer: We need to reorganize our world so that men will earn enough money for what the family needs to exist and women will be able to stay at home, deal with family matters, and educate the children, herself, and her husband. The man must engage with work only to support the family and to study the wisdom of Kabbalah.

Question: Do you believe that there will be a turn in this direction in the world?

Answer: Nothing will succeed otherwise. What will we do with billions of unemployed, with people who are not needed? With what will they be involved?

They must be taught and educated. Gradually, they will create normal families who will be compatible with the spiritual root. Without being compatible with the spiritual root, we will not reach the completion of correction, neither physically nor spiritually.

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To See A Worthy Husband

laitman_543_02Question: How can a woman rise to such a spiritual degree that will let her see a worthy husband in every bachelor?

Answer: You don’t have to be on a high spiritual degree for this. On the contrary, lower your nose to the material world and everything will be all right. You will immediately see worthy men around you.

Don’t assume airs, it’s not good. You will lose.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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Laitman_632_3Question: If a man is in civil marriage, is he considered married?

Answer: It is not that significant today. Everything depends on how much the couple considers themselves a husband and wife.

However, as a rule, a marriage is defined by (the presence of) children. I believe that the marriage is sacred if there are children in it. One has no right to divorce and is obligated to raise children under any given conditions. Children are better with any father than without him!
From the Lesson in Russian, 12/4/16

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Help Create A Family

laitman_622_02Question: Is correction possible with asceticism and isolation? If not, then why is this so widespread?

Answer: This is widespread because people are used to this form of life. In ancient times, they behaved this way to allegedly “kill” the flesh. But this does not correspond  to Kabbalistic principles.

The mortification of the flesh doesn’t come from and has nothing to do with Kabbalah. Therefore, according to the wisdom of Kabbalah, one must not remain single.

We need to help single people organize their lives. By the way, helping to establish a family is a great Mitzvah (commandment). Therefore, the friends in a group, especially women, should help each other to create families.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/4/16

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