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Lie And Truth, Part 4

laitman_283.01Question: Are love and truth always inseparable?

Answer: Love exists in the heart and truth in the head. Love must come from the heart; that is, I need to change all its qualities, all my desires, in order to direct them to the benefit of the loved one. This is called “an open heart.”

I measure the truth relative to the level of a person’s development: how much is beneficial for him to hear, how much can he feel and understand, and I treat him accordingly. Perhaps I will have to hide something from him or maybe even to lie if from my loving heart I see that it will be better for him this way.

A person who seeks the truth constantly checks himself for what lie he is in.

Question: Why is a person attracted to the truth? Why does it acquire value for him?

Answer: An informational gene from the upper degree begins manifesting in him. The upper force is called truth. The word “truth” consists of letters “Alef-Mem-Tav,” that is, it covers the entire alphabet from the beginning to the end; it is the general name of the Creator, who is good and does good, absolute love and bestowal outside of Himself. We need to think how to become similar to Him, even just a little. This is what is taught by the wisdom of Kabbalah.

There are people in whom such informational genes are awakening. Apparently, in their basis, they were closer to the Creator and therefore the corresponding records have remained in them. Now these genes begin to manifest in them and pull them to reveal the qualities of the Creator.

This gene is called a point in the heart, a desire to reveal the truth. No matter what it turns out, the main thing is that it is the truth. Even if I do not like it, I nevertheless aspire to it, as it is written: “Buy the truth and do not sell it.”

Question: I know many people who absolutely do not believe in God, but nevertheless are very much drawn to the truth . Why is it so?

Answer: The aspiration to truth is completely unrelated to faith. Everyone who seeks the truth is invited to come and reveal it. The wisdom of Kabbalah has nothing to do with religion, but striving for the truth is a necessary condition.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 11/16/17

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laitman_622.02Question: I agree that human nature is arranged so that a person constantly lies. But let’s imagine that we live in a world where there are no lies and each one tells others everything he thinks about them. This would be just awful and we would cruelly hurt each other! Does it mean that lies are exactly what allow us to coexist?

Answer: We would teach our children how to reach the degree of truth. Instead of lying to each other; we would build a real connection between us, that is; we would change our qualities from deceptive to true ones, and we would begin to treat each other genuinely.

After all, we see that our entire life is deceitful from beginning to end. We are developing in the direction of ever increasing lies—around us is complete deception: education, culture, relationships between spouses, parents, and children, all our occupations, industry, and armament.

Question: If spouses told each other everything they really think about each other, they would divorce immediately. Does it mean that a lie is useful because life would be impossible without it?

Answer: Lying is the basis of our life. It is a lie and not the truth. However, the lie is given so we can correct it, that is, correct ourselves. It is clear that if we do not correct ourselves, we cannot exist side by side without lying. Yet, if we begin correcting ourselves, we will see that the need to lie gradually disappears.

Question: What is this correction?

Answer: This is the correction to love one’s neighbor as yourself. If I love someone else, I do not need to lie to him. How can I deceive the one I love? I can open my whole heart to him and there will be nothing that can hurt him. When I really love another, I like everything in him. Otherwise, it is not love.

Even if I see something wrong in him, I can say it and he will understand. After all, he knows that I speak out of love for him and not from a desire to offend him.

Question: If we ourselves constantly lie, why do we hate it so much when someone lies to us?

Answer: It is because we do not get out of lies and do not know where the truth is and what true love is. Truth and love are hidden from us.

We hate others’ lies because we want everybody to love us and to tell us good things sincerely. However, we ourselves do not want to treat others with such love.

If another one lies to me, then it humiliates me because he does not accept me as an equal. This is why others’ lies hurt us so much. If they lie to me, then they do not love me. If they loved me, then even a lie would come from love. Love would cover all the lies because it is above everything.

We lie to children, but we do it out of love, and therefore, this lie does not harm them. This is called a lie in the name of truth because we know the truth, but we understand that it will be better for a person to hear something different.

Everything should come from love; it must lie in the very foundation. Then it will oblige me to treat the other well and to do everything for his and not for my benefit. I rise above myself and do everything for him, and then, if necessary, I can even tell him lies. Education is impossible without some concealment of the truth.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 11/16/17

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laitman_600.04Question: It turns out that lies have a very important role: to gradually develop us, to push us closer to the revelation of truth. What level of development does a child reach when he starts lying at the age of three?

Answer: A child just discovers his nature. The shattering is in our basis, the sin of the Tree of Knowledge, as a result of which the lie has completely penetrated into our nature and reigns deeply within us. This is why we are unable to recognize a lie. On the contrary, we regard the truth as a lie and the lie as truth.

Truth and lie are so intertwined with each other that we do not even realize how deceitful we are. How can I measure what percentage of what I said is true? Relative to what can I evaluate this?

Question: According to statistics, a three to four-year-old child lies every two hours, a six-year-old already lies once in an hour and a half, and an adult at least three times every ten minutes. Does it mean that as we get older we become bigger liars?

Answer: Of course, we constantly lie and never say a drop of truth. The only question is whether the lie is conscious lie or not? But it is a lie—100%.

Question: Does the property of deception arise in us under the influence of society or from nature?

Answer: Deception lies in our nature and the environment just helps us use this property and grow it. All our relationships in society have a purpose to multiply lies and to succeed through it.

We educate children with stories that are complete lies from the beginning to end, all kinds of fairy tales about animals, cars, and trains that talk with each other, etc. This does not happen in life! This is an absolutely wrong education. All these deceitful pictures are imprinted in the child and when he grows up he as if expects them to be manifested in life.

It is not enough that we are naturally prone to lies and fantasies, we also educate children so that they become accustomed to lying. Eventually, they get used to living in the world of lies. These are not fantasies that just expand the truth a little; they are completely false.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 11/16/17

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laitman_207Question: The truth is that we lie almost constantly and every day, starting from the small tricks and covering up small flaws to the biggest deception and slander. Lying is part of our life.

A child begins to lie from the early childhood, even without understanding what he is doing. We are touched when a child with his face smeared with chocolate confidently answers, “It wasn’t me!” to the question, “Who ate the candy?” So, what is the meaning of a lie and how does it develop a person?

Answer: Lies lie in the foundation of creation as the opposite of truth. Truth and lie are of equal importance because they cannot exist without each other. We must evaluate one relative to the other; otherwise, we will feel nothing. There is no evil without good; there is no good without misfortune; there is no darkness without light and so on.

Therefore, there is always a lie inside the truth and vice versa. If we delve deeper inside the basics of creation, then there is the Light, which is truth. After all, the Light is the only thing that exists; there are only bestowal and the common connection of all the parts of creation. A lie, the darkness comes every time wishing to separate, disunite and even break the entire creation.

This is precisely what happened during the sin of the Tree of Knowledge. It is written that a lie can only exist if it grows out of some kind of truth. Therefore, Adam and Eve (Havah) tried the apple first, because they were sure that it was possible to eat it and enjoy it for the sake of bestowal and there can be no prohibition. This indeed was the truth.

However, when they continued to eat, they already could not avoid the temptation and found themselves in a lie. That is, the lie grows out of the truth, and we are a result of the lie, of that tremendous shattering that happened to our souls in their very basis.

Therefore, if we want to come to truth, we must go through lies, tearing through it as if through a dark, dense forest, and then possibly we will gradually reach the truth.

It is “possible” because it is really extremely difficult to do. Besides, this opportunity depends on our development, which is provided by the wisdom of Kabbalah through the Light that returns to the source. After all, otherwise we do not see at all where the truth is and where the lie is, exactly like the child who assures that he did not eat the candy despite obvious evidence. We do not understand and do not realize our lie, because the lie is our primordial quality.

Therefore, we must forgive lies, treat each other with understanding, and we should learn to rise above all these lies, perceiving them as cute children’s mischief. After all, this is our nature.

The world cannot exist without lie, and it is only in the presence of lies that truth can exist. It is good if they exist in equal amounts, because so far we live in the world of complete deception. And those bits of truth that exist in it are meant only to make a lie look like truth.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 11/16/17

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Why Are We Given Unique Talents?

laitman_571.03Question: What is the spiritual root of talents?

Answer: It depends on the talent. In principle, a talent is a special application of one’s innate tendencies.

People cannot all be the same. We are all different; everyone, I would say, has a unique talent. It is simply a matter of the individual not discovering it or maybe even suppressing it.

But in general, everyone has a particular talent. If we were to educate people correctly, then something unique would be revealed in each person, something that no one else has. And this unique talent is the point in which the individual is similar to the Creator.

Because talents are given to us specifically in order for us to come to similarity of form with the Creator.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian, 7/9/17

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How Can We Protect Children From The Cruel World?

627.2Question: How do we protect children from the cruel world?

Answer: Only by providing them with the basics of Kabbalistic knowledge. There’s nothing else!

Believe me that any other knowledge and instruction have no power. Only if you familiarize a person with the wisdom of Kabbalah and they begin to understand why and for what purpose everything revolves in the world, what the world is going through, and how it comes to an end, only by this you provide them with the best life insurance.

In our community there are a lot of children who were born here and are now parents themselves. I’m happy to see the second generation born.

I remember the birth of the kids who are fathers now, and I see that all this is not in vain. Our children do not move away from us. It happens that they disconnect from us for some time, but they come back to our community nonetheless. They understand us and approve of us.

You will not see any other society in the world in which parents, children, and grandchildren would be so interconnected, and this happens because we have common goals, a common method, a common life, a common group, a common Creator, a community. Therefore, take my advice: Try to organize all this, and you will become unique anywhere in the world, a good example for all.

Question: Do you mean to say that there can be true friendship between fathers and sons?

Answer: I cannot say anything about true friendship, but the wisdom of Kabbalah connects people to each other. This occupation, which is common for a father and son, is above our world. Therefore, it is necessary to try all means possible to educate a child, and set an example.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 12/11/16

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Society Of The Future: Glory Of Bestowal

laitman_939.02Question: It is written that the last generation will have many methodical books of wisdom and morals that prove the glory and sublimity of excellence in bestowing upon others, to a point where the entire nation, from small to great, engage in them wholeheartedly.”(Baal HaSulam, The Last Generation). What is this proof?

Answer: Only those who acquire qualities of bestowal and love have the proof.

An inversion of perception of reality takes place in a person who receives the upper qualities. He begins to feel everyone closer than himself, more important than himself, and above himself. Their knowledge, feelings, thoughts, approach, principles, and decisions become more important to him than his own behavioral bases.

Through others, he begins seeing the world outside of himself and eventually realizes that there is a common, single, and kind force in the world that keeps everyone on itself and pervades the entire universe. It fills the world with kindness, love, interrelation, and the feeling of eternity and perfection.

This is what is revealed to a person who acquires qualities of feeling his neighbor.

He gradually expands his circle that starts from the ten consisting of people who are close to him in spirit, methodology, and purpose. Then to this ten he attracts external tens who are studying within the framework of Bnei Baruch Kabbalah, then he moves to the people of Israel because these people were in the state of mutual love 2,000 years ago before destruction of the Temple, that is, before the disruption of good relationships between people.

And only after this he moves to the rest of the nations of the world, as it is written: “My house shall be called a house of prayer for all peoples.”
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 6/26/17

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laitman_265Baal HaSulam, The Writings of the Last Generation: They have many methodical books of wisdom and morals that prove the glory and sublimity of excellence in bestowing upon others, to a point where the entire nation, from small to great, engage in them wholeheartedly.

We are not speaking here of the general ethics, which is a part of psychology or philosophy. These are not beautiful words and all kinds of behavioral principles that humanity has raised to extreme heights and demands that we be on their level, but it is what we must achieve under the influence of the hidden force of nature.

First of all, behavioral practices must be a result of our correctly organized efforts by which we awaken the surrounding Light, a particularly force of nature, that forms, unites, and leads us to mutual inclusion into each other where our individualities disappear. Then we begin to feel others more than ourselves, above ourselves, as more important.

Like a mother treats a baby as more important to her than herself, that is how a person should come to the upper force that forms the relationship between the mother and her child so it would do the same to us. That is what we should ask of it, demand of it, call for upon it.

That is why we need to exert a certain effort so that the upper force would start changing us in regard to absolute strangers that are removed and opposite to us and later to the whole world. And so we start from a small circle that is closer to us in spirit, in understanding, by awakening the same force to the most outer circles that are not in contact with us.

Baal HaSulam emphasized that everyone should study the methodological texts “from small to great,” i.e., at all levels. We are not speaking here of the actual age of a person for it is impossible to coerce a baby, a small child, or a teenager to grasp the greatness of the highest goal and the ways of achieving it.

For that we need to work amongst ourselves and prepare the next generation through day care centers and schools so that in the teenage years they will begin to understand the virtue of their behavior in the society.
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From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 6/26/17

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The Basis Of The Future Society, Part 2

laitman_933.jpgLiving Laboratory

Human society does not realize how much we are interdependent and what harm we do to ourselves by trying to separate and distance ourselves from each other.

And the true reality is one system with all elements of it completely interconnected at all levels. And we have an opportunity to see this inside human society.

The group is a laboratory where we study nature as a single organism. This means that people gather and start learning how to be together. If they can get closer to each other despite their egoism and awaken the force of unity, love, participation, and sympathy within themselves, then a special bond will arise between them.

It is desirable that the group is not mixed so as not to confuse us with the relationship of the sexes. It is better to have only men or only women in it of about the same age, status, and education so that it would be easier for them to understand each other.

The smaller the differences will be, the easier it will be for us to work and continue to approach each other more closely in this experiment that we want to perform on ourselves.

As we approach each other, we feel a joint desire for unity between us, a common force that can influence us. We will find that apart from a personal and egoistic desire that everyone came with initially, another common desire is born, which is called the “group.”

Before that, we were a simple gathering of people. But we become a group when we create and build something that relates not to everyone individually, but to all of us. Without this new power, which we reveal in each other, there would be no group. It is not possible to remove any member of the group and retain this force.

That is, we all depend on each other and we want to unite in such a way as to achieve this power of unity, which already works outside of us, above our level. This force does not belong to either of us—it is common. So we create an additional force that did not exist before.

A group in which we all are united and everybody annuls his egoism for the sake of others, wishing only good to one another, produces one new common force, which is called the strength of the group.

We feel related to this power. We no longer perceive ourselves individually and egoistically as we did before. This perception disappears and we do not want to remember it, but we try to learn only this common force. After all, this way everyone includes everyone else.

For example if there are ten of us, then each gets ten times more power than we formerly had. And then in the ten, the force is multiplied, 10 x 10, that is, 100 times more.

And this is only the beginning because by working on our connection, we multiply this common force more and more. It is interesting that this common force is no longer egoistic but altruistic, which is the force of mutual bestowal. After all, everyone has come out of his egoism toward others, and that’s how we give birth to the power of bestowal, the power of love and unity that is outside man.

This force exists in nature beyond our egoism. We suddenly give birth to a new creation—called Adam, Man, and not every one of us, as he was in his animal existence before.

Adam is a spiritual body, a force, not matter. We all feel that we exist within it, within this desire. With the help of this new force, created by us, we can explore a new reality, that is, can find out what we feel in it and how we can live in it.

We find ourselves in a completely different world, because we felt the world within our egoistic desire. And having risen above individual egoism and creating one common great altruistic force, we see a different reality in it, which is called the upper spiritual world. We acquire a new common mind, new sense organs and properties, and feel ourselves in a new dimension—not egoistic, as now, but in a world of love and bestowal.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 7/4/17

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laitman_934Question: Kabbalah says that there is one force in nature that can change our whole life for the better and make us happy, but it is possible to attract this force only by working together in a special group. What is a group from Kabbalah’s perspective?

Answer: The concept of group for our world is something irrational and non-existent. Although we do hear the word “group” everywhere, Kabbalah puts a completely different meaning in this concept.

The whole reality is one integral system bound by all its parts and properties into one whole. It is just like all organs in our body are connected into one system, and so our body lives. And if this system breaks down and the body becomes ill, then the problem is not with some separate organ, but mainly because the communication between organs is broken.

Traditional medicine operates on the principle of allopathy; that is, it concentrates on the treatment of a particular organ or a small part of the body and does not take into account the rest of the body. The eye doctor does not treat ears, and the otolaryngologist specializes in ears but knows nothing about the kidneys, etc. This is the problem; we do not treat our body as a single system.

The further we advance, the more we are convinced of the incorrectness of this approach. The world becomes round and closed, and we find out that everyone is connected with each other. This is a result of our high level of development. We discover that we exist in one system and in complete interrelation with each other even when we develop in an egoistic form.

We have no choice but to look at the world from a different perspective and to begin to perceive humanity as one. If we continue to see ourselves as separate individuals, it will lead to our having very bad lives, even into breakdown and catastrophe, the signs of which are already felt today.

They say that you can reach anyone through a chain of five people. And generally we live in a world where trade, travel, communications, and industries have become transcontinental. But people are not ready for this. Each of us remains by himself, as a huge individualist who is not ready to connect with others as all systems in the modern world unite.

We also see that all objects are interrelated when we observe the universe. Advanced methods of scientific research show that the universe holds many secrets that we cannot comprehend because we do not use a common, integral approach in our study.

We cannot even imagine the quality of communication that exists between all parts of reality. By its nature, we cannot associate sound with light, health with nature. Only now are we discovering that we are dependent on what is happening on the sun and other stars and that our state and mood depend on phenomena in the universe. Gradually we will reveal this universal relationship.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 7/4/17

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