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The Basis Of The Future Society, Part 2

laitman_933.jpgLiving Laboratory

Human society does not realize how much we are interdependent and what harm we do to ourselves by trying to separate and distance ourselves from each other.

And the true reality is one system with all elements of it completely interconnected at all levels. And we have an opportunity to see this inside human society.

The group is a laboratory where we study nature as a single organism. This means that people gather and start learning how to be together. If they can get closer to each other despite their egoism and awaken the force of unity, love, participation, and sympathy within themselves, then a special bond will arise between them.

It is desirable that the group is not mixed so as not to confuse us with the relationship of the sexes. It is better to have only men or only women in it of about the same age, status, and education so that it would be easier for them to understand each other.

The smaller the differences will be, the easier it will be for us to work and continue to approach each other more closely in this experiment that we want to perform on ourselves.

As we approach each other, we feel a joint desire for unity between us, a common force that can influence us. We will find that apart from a personal and egoistic desire that everyone came with initially, another common desire is born, which is called the “group.”

Before that, we were a simple gathering of people. But we become a group when we create and build something that relates not to everyone individually, but to all of us. Without this new power, which we reveal in each other, there would be no group. It is not possible to remove any member of the group and retain this force.

That is, we all depend on each other and we want to unite in such a way as to achieve this power of unity, which already works outside of us, above our level. This force does not belong to either of us—it is common. So we create an additional force that did not exist before.

A group in which we all are united and everybody annuls his egoism for the sake of others, wishing only good to one another, produces one new common force, which is called the strength of the group.

We feel related to this power. We no longer perceive ourselves individually and egoistically as we did before. This perception disappears and we do not want to remember it, but we try to learn only this common force. After all, this way everyone includes everyone else.

For example if there are ten of us, then each gets ten times more power than we formerly had. And then in the ten, the force is multiplied, 10 x 10, that is, 100 times more.

And this is only the beginning because by working on our connection, we multiply this common force more and more. It is interesting that this common force is no longer egoistic but altruistic, which is the force of mutual bestowal. After all, everyone has come out of his egoism toward others, and that’s how we give birth to the power of bestowal, the power of love and unity that is outside man.

This force exists in nature beyond our egoism. We suddenly give birth to a new creation—called Adam, Man, and not every one of us, as he was in his animal existence before.

Adam is a spiritual body, a force, not matter. We all feel that we exist within it, within this desire. With the help of this new force, created by us, we can explore a new reality, that is, can find out what we feel in it and how we can live in it.

We find ourselves in a completely different world, because we felt the world within our egoistic desire. And having risen above individual egoism and creating one common great altruistic force, we see a different reality in it, which is called the upper spiritual world. We acquire a new common mind, new sense organs and properties, and feel ourselves in a new dimension—not egoistic, as now, but in a world of love and bestowal.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 7/4/17

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The Basis Of The Future Society, Part 1

laitman_934Question: Kabbalah says that there is one force in nature that can change our whole life for the better and make us happy, but it is possible to attract this force only by working together in a special group. What is a group from Kabbalah’s perspective?

Answer: The concept of group for our world is something irrational and non-existent. Although we do hear the word “group” everywhere, Kabbalah puts a completely different meaning in this concept.

The whole reality is one integral system bound by all its parts and properties into one whole. It is just like all organs in our body are connected into one system, and so our body lives. And if this system breaks down and the body becomes ill, then the problem is not with some separate organ, but mainly because the communication between organs is broken.

Traditional medicine operates on the principle of allopathy; that is, it concentrates on the treatment of a particular organ or a small part of the body and does not take into account the rest of the body. The eye doctor does not treat ears, and the otolaryngologist specializes in ears but knows nothing about the kidneys, etc. This is the problem; we do not treat our body as a single system.

The further we advance, the more we are convinced of the incorrectness of this approach. The world becomes round and closed, and we find out that everyone is connected with each other. This is a result of our high level of development. We discover that we exist in one system and in complete interrelation with each other even when we develop in an egoistic form.

We have no choice but to look at the world from a different perspective and to begin to perceive humanity as one. If we continue to see ourselves as separate individuals, it will lead to our having very bad lives, even into breakdown and catastrophe, the signs of which are already felt today.

They say that you can reach anyone through a chain of five people. And generally we live in a world where trade, travel, communications, and industries have become transcontinental. But people are not ready for this. Each of us remains by himself, as a huge individualist who is not ready to connect with others as all systems in the modern world unite.

We also see that all objects are interrelated when we observe the universe. Advanced methods of scientific research show that the universe holds many secrets that we cannot comprehend because we do not use a common, integral approach in our study.

We cannot even imagine the quality of communication that exists between all parts of reality. By its nature, we cannot associate sound with light, health with nature. Only now are we discovering that we are dependent on what is happening on the sun and other stars and that our state and mood depend on phenomena in the universe. Gradually we will reveal this universal relationship.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 7/4/17

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Sex, Love, Test Tubes And Nature

laitman_546.03In the News (Quartz): “It doesn’t take long for seemingly outlandish ideas to become normalized. Today, Stanford University professor Hank Greely’s assertion that Americans will stop having sex to procreate sounds absurd. But in a couple of decades, he predicts, that will be the accepted reality.

“Greely, director of Stanford Law School’s Center for Law and the Biosciences, believes that we’re 20 to 30 years away from a time when most American procreation will begin by selecting from a range of embryos created with the parents’ DNA in a lab. This already happens on a limited basis for disease prevention and occasionally sex selection, but he argues it will become far cheaper and widely available thanks to stem cell technology that will allow couples to make eggs and sperm out of stem cells from their skin.”

My Comment: We should welcome this option if a person suffers from an incurable disease so as not to pass it on to his offspring. In addition, the condition of the father or mother can be tested and necessary changes can be made. We can do it. We already have such “tweezers” that enable us to raise a good and healthy generation. Humanity has always aspired for that.

Basically, if every person were allowed to have healthy, beautiful, strong, and successful children, he would want that. So it is quite possible that we are advancing toward that.

Question: So what is the meaning of conceiving with love?

Answer: What does love have to do with it?! When it comes to conceiving, we are like animals; we only confuse the two things! Is there love between animals? They smell each other and the smell alone is enough in order to tell them whether they can reproduce. It isn’t sex but the culture. For cats, for example, it is spring time, and during the rest of the year they just lie tranquilly in the sun. That’s the way it is with animals. 

And we confuse pleasure with reproduction. Sex is a pleasure just like good food. Why should it be connected to having children? Today we see how much one has nothing to do with the other. We hardly want to conceive one child! Why should we have sex for 50 years?

Comment: Humanity sees things in a totally different manner…

Answer: No, it doesn’t see things differently. Humanity simply doesn’t understand where it already is. Love doesn’t go along with sex, and reproduction has nothing to do with love or even with sex.

Question: What is a corrected family in your opinion?

Answer: It is very hard for me to describe a corrected family since in such a family there are first and foremost good relations between its members above all the problems.

We have to change our attitude to people and this will change our whole life. Then we will see how to maintain a good family life. But without changing our attitude, of course, it will certainly be awful.

Question: With such kind, ideal relationships in the corrected family, what will be the attitude to having children? Let’s say we are a couple living by the rule of love of others…

Answer: I think that if we truly relate to each other that way, then nature itself will begin to regulate humanity and our mutual relations. We will not connect beastliness with being human, and we will see life in a totally different way.

We cannot understand that today. Today we are locked on the beastly life and the beastly family, on the need to be together in order to exist, to survive, to raise children. In the corrected family, on the other hand, there will be a totally different atmosphere.

So it is hard for me to say, but there will be completely different relationships between sex, family, love, and reproduction according to the law of nature. According to the rule of “love thy friend as thyself,” we will see exactly what is best for us.

Question: Will there be a need for pills or any other contraceptives?

Answer: No. Everything will be regulated by nature alone. We only have to regulate the good relations between us.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 7/6/17

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The Work Of The Correction Of The World, Part 4

Laitman_712_03.jpgThe correction of the world consists of the correction of a person in resembling the upper force and approximating its qualities. The more we resemble the general force of nature in character and behavior, the better our lives will be.

The ultimate goal of creation is to become completely similar to the upper force, due to which we will begin to live in the world of absolute goodness.

Question: But why do you think that this will satisfy everyone and make them happy? After all, there are a multitude of other suggestions on how to improve our lives.

Answer: We are all a result of the upper force that created and purposely corrupted us so that we, ourselves, would come to resemble it. The science of Kabbalah doesn’t make anything up. It only studies the system of nature and presents us the results of its research. And the result is as follows: if we really want to live in a good world, we must correct ourselves to resemble the upper force of nature.

This conclusion was determined by the Kabbalists as a result of their study that has been going on for nearly 6,000 years. They tried to realize this correction at all times in all different kinds of societies and private individuals, and even on the scale of the entire nation, and based on this they made conclusions and left us this science.

Question: Many people think that all the troubles come specifically because of the upper force, which every religion perceives differently, and which happens to be the cause of many conflicts and even wars. So how can the correction depend on the upper force?

Answer: There are many fantasies and beliefs on the topic of the upper force that keep on changing. That’s why the only thing that is important is to study the upper force and through experience to determine what the good life should really be like and how to achieve it.

Question: And what if I don’t believe in the upper force?

Answer: You don’t need to believe in anything, only explore. Faith is only related to religion and research to science. As it is written, “The judge can only act based on what his eyes see,” that is the only thing we have to rely on.

Question: What is this upper force that we have to resemble and what does the person feel during this?

Answer: The upper force is the general force that includes the entire reality in it. If a person starts being similar to it, he begins to feel the entire world, just like it does. The upper force is the cause and reason for everything that exists in the world. That is why we need to learn about it as much as possible, to know it, and as a result of this knowledge we will understand how to build our lives in a better way.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 6/13/17

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Generation Gap, Part 4

laitman_961,1Question: How do we build the connection between parents and children through the desire for the eternal soul? How do we develop within the child the desire for the soul?

Answer: From the moment of birth, we must place the child in an environment where he can grow spiritually so that in several years we can speak with him in a language we both understand.

He must have such an environment where he can develop physically, emotionally, and intellectually for the revelation of the soul within him.

The environment is obligated to teach him how to do this through appropriate, kind, and friendly connection with others so that he can begin to sense a friendly world to such an extent that his egoism gradually goes through the lessons for correct behavior, that is, bestowal, love of others, connection, and unity.

Question: What does he need this for?

Answer: In order to see a positive response in the eyes of others and to take his place among them while he is still moved by egoistic motives. Everything else we leave to be accomplished by a special force that is at work in such a society, called the Light that Reforms.

Question: So the only method of connection between generations is the development of the soul, a process by which a person comes out of his egoism? And what does he see then?

Answer: He sees a system that controls the life of this whole world. He begins to derive pleasure, not from toys, that is, short-lived temporary pleasures—the Internet, television, movies, food, sex, family, money, power, fame, and narcotics—but from true fulfillment of experiencing the source of all pleasures.

This fulfillment is a great deal more significant and powerful than all others that are found in everyday life.

Spiritual pleasure fulfills the biggest human desire, a desire called the soul.

Question: Will this fulfill a person? Will he be happy?

Answer: Without question, because this is how we are made. It is an eternal and perfect pleasure, the biggest and fullest, giving us the ability to perceive and to be fulfilled from end to end. All other pleasures are only like tiny grains of sand that exist within spiritual pleasure.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life 851,” 4/18/17

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They Don’t Want To Have Children

Question from Facebook: Women today don’t want to have children. Things were different in my time. Today my daughter doesn’t want to hear what I have to say about the motherly instinct and that it is the greatest thing there is. What is happening to women today?

Answer: Our egoism keeps growing and determines how humanity advances and how it evolves. People don’t want to have families anymore, to see their relatives, or to have children.

They think more about the fact that it will be too costly, and they care only about loving themselves. Therefore, as far as they are concerned, there is no point having children and bringing them up so that at the age of 20 they will leave home without even saying goodbye.

Question: How can a woman feel happy about being a mother again?

Answer: If a woman can be certain that what she is doing is for some good. And today there is no benefit for her, the child, or society—no one.

Society does not need people because robots are replacing them today. A child has no benefit from being born into this world. What is he born for? In order to do drugs later on in life or to be unemployed? His mother has no benefit from that because she serves him and takes care of him for 20 years and then he disappears.

Therefore, looking at this reality, she prefers to dedicate this time to herself, to friends, to spending time in clubs, traveling, and various other engagements. We see that women today manage very well with this.

Question: When would women feel the benefit of having children?

Answer: Only if they discover that they have a new goal in life that cannot be attained without a family and children. This goal is to discover together with her husband and children the next level of their development, which means the upper world.

There should be a certain connection in the family between the parents and the children where they can discover the Creator between them, and the woman, like the Creator, gives birth to a human being and in this action feels that she is like the Creator. Without this goal, she feels unfulfilled. We should return to this state.

This will only happen after humanity begins to acquire a new nature, the attribute of love and bestowal.
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From KabTV’s “News with Michael Laitman” 6/8/17

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Compromising Is The Best Remedy For Divorce

laitman_627_1Question: In our time, when divorces have become so frequent, what is the recipe for a happy marriage?

Answer: My teacher Rabash used to say that compromising is the key to a happy family life. Everybody should give way to the other—in everything! And then it will become possible to live together, and without it, not. Concessions and patience make a huge difference.

Question: What exactly does one need to concede?

Answer: We have to step on our own egoism and annul ourselves before our partner: to disregard our pride and to concede. This is the only way we can coexist in the family.

After all, everyone has enormous egoism and cannot tolerate one another, and as a result, the family falls apart after a year or two. We see that young people change partners not even every month, but almost every week and every day.

Therefore, if we want to be able to live together, we have to learn how to compromise. Our nature is just egoism. Everyone wants to establish himself and be above others. In the beginning, we are still ready to give up something, but then we get used to each other and do not want to give in. And this is the whole secret.

If we are not ready to compromise, then we should not start a family. That’s why divorces happen everywhere. People cannot live together for a long time. I understand this problem, because I also saw a lot of couples getting divorced. And yet I think that none of them eventually found a better partner than the former one. We just need to find some form of co-existence, especially if there are children, and to compromise to each other in some way.

Question: Is there such a thing as two halves of a soul, when the pair is already appointed from above?

Answer: It happens only in beautiful novels.

Question: Do you think that it is possible to connect any man and woman and they will be able to create a good family?

Answer: If we start good courses to educate boys and girls on family relationships and properly prepare them, erasing all negative habits and examples obtained at home and teach them correct habits, then practically any pair can create a family that will live happily together for many years.
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From the Webinar 6/20/17

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Alone In A Crowd Of A Billion, Part 7

laitman_947One For The Sake Of Together And Together For The Sake Of One

Question: Do you like to be alone or surrounded by other people?

Answer: I like to be alone. But I have a goal that is very important to me, and for its sake, I leave my room and come to people. As a result, it turns out that throughout a year, I fly around the globe.

Question: What is the use of being alone?

Answer: Alone I can develop individually: read books and articles. I absorb the sources, work on the material, and analyze the phenomena personally, so that no one interferes.

But beyond that, I have to go outside to communicate with other people because there is a goal that obliges me. The more I give them and help them, the more I can absorb from them. It is written: “I learned from all my students.” In fact, to the extent that I want to convey my knowledge and all the good to them, through the same channel, I get their impressions that teach me.

It turns out that mutual communication begins between us: I teach my students and I learn from them; that is, I become a student. This approach is possible with respect to any area of human life. The time has come when we must communicate with each other in such form; this is called the era of the Messiah, the last generation.

Question: What is the correct relationship between being alone and interconnected with other people?

Answer: Everyone should feel the right relationship individually, as the saying goes: “The soul of man will teach him.” He will feel that he is obliged to go outside, spread his knowledge, help others, and also receive from them. A person realizes that he needs a new kind of connection.

Question: Where will mankind of the 21st century go: to solitude or to be together?

Answer: In the 21st century, there will be both. Above all individuals there must be another layer that covers everything, where we are together. That is, there will be complete harmony: loneliness for the sake of unity and unification for the sake of individuality, one for the sake of together and together for the sake of one. Between these concepts there will be no contradiction, only mutual support.

Now we see that these concepts are in contradiction—a man secludes himself and does not want communication. That is, the one principle still collides with the principle of together. But when we get to the critical state in this matter, humanity will start looking for a way out, a method for uniting people, which nature requires of us.

Otherwise, nature is out of balance and we await climatic catastrophes and wars. People will be unable to build families and live together. The face of the generation will become very cruel because it will be incapable of uniting the two principles together: individuality and unity. And then, people will want to learn the methods of unification that Kabbalah offers.

Question: How can a person check what is at the point of equilibrium?

Answer: Balance is a harmony between these two areas in which a person will feel how nature is revealed before him. He will open his eyes to a new dimension. Inside the combination of these two layers: individuality and complete unification, a new world is revealed to him where all opposites unite and replenish each other.

Question: Will a man of the future be an individualist?

Answer: The whole individuality of the future man will be designed to support one man, that is, a common system united as one man. The individuality of each will be expressed in that it will include everyone.

Question: That is, he will not care about personal benefits, but about the benefits of society?

Answer: The personal benefits of each will be inseparable from the benefits of society. We will all feel like one man, as the supreme power that unfolds within all of us, filling us with mutual bestowal and love and revealing the higher reality to us.

I wish for us to achieve this kind of life as quickly as possible!
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 4/4/17

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Three Times About Love

laitman_527_03Comment: You said that a person is given the feeling of love in his youth and each of us has, indeed, experienced first love. The second time is when a person has a child, and as for the third time, he has to develop it himself, consciously in relation to strangers.

Answer: The first case is not love but a natural internal hormonal call that is described in many sources. In the second case, when a person has a baby, he feels that he is part of nature and that he is taking some high part in it. This action is similar to the Creator’s action and so it gives a person a special feeling. In the third case, if a person begins to truly resemble the Creator, he can already feel what love is.

Question: In the first two cases I can somehow imagine what love is. Can I relate to these two cases as an example in order to understand how to love others?

Answer: No! In the first case it is merely a hormonal discharge and that’s all. Forgive me for speaking about love and romance this way, but there is nothing else in it. You can ask any psychologist. And as for the love of a baby, it is a beastly emotion.

Nature did not let us feel all that for no reason but to develop the next level in us, which is above nature. You begin to love another not because you like him or because you fill up some of your desires, but because you are bringing the Creator pleasure by that, and this is called altruism.
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From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 2/26/17

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The Work Of The Correction Of The World, Part 3

laitman_229Question: In the world there is a lot of corruption, deceit, unfairness, and inequality between those who have and have not—all of it stands in the way of normal life. Evidently, there are people who are more at fault for this than others, but what can be asked of a simple person?

Why do you insist that everyone has to correct themselves? Wouldn’t it be better to correct those in the position of power, so they would improve all our systems and make our lives better. What does a ordinary person have to do with this?

Answer: A simple person suffers without even knowing why. But the truth is that everyone is in charge of their egoism and will have to correct themselves.

Question: So why not correct only those who are the cause of the problem?

Answer: They are not the cause of the problem; the problem is the consequence of all of us. If we replace some people at the top, others who are no better will come to replace them. We need to correct the entire human society and then all the other levels: animal, vegetative, and inanimate will be corrected too because they all depend on man.

Question: What is so specific about each person that is detrimental to the whole system?

Answer: It is the human desire to build its success at the expense of another.

Question: But we try to help each other. There are so many humanitarian aid societies today and no one goes hungry. It looks like we care about each other and wish each other well?

Answer: The problem is that everyone judges according to their own opinion, and therefore is puzzled about why is it that we do so much good to each other, but the world keeps getting worse and worse? Apparently, we don’t know what it means to do good to each other, and what the system of nature requires of us. We don’t understand that we need to build a human society not based on our views, but according to the higher requirements, above the level of our egoistic mindsets, feelings, or philosophy.

Each person has his own understanding of what the ideal human society should look like. First, we must establish what the correct format of that society should be. We lack that understanding, and therefore we constantly enter into arguments, wars, and everyone thinks that they are in the right. Courts are overflowing with people trying to prove their convictions.

So who can give us the definition of the correct parameters of the world system for it to be an objective verdict, not someone’s opinion? After all, we all are corrupt egoists full of different stereotypes, and whether subconsciously or not, we always think only of ourselves and not of others.

That is why, the first thing we need to do is to determine the correct, objective form of the world system. And for that reason we need to turn to the science of Kabbalah, which explains what the upper force and the system of nature are and how can we become similar to it. For that is the only way we can come to a good life.

The upper force of nature is beyond us, and we cannot change it. However, we can change ourselves and bring us to harmony with it. The more we begin resembling its qualities, the better our lives will be.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 6/13/17

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