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To Change Human Nature

laitman_265The change in a person’s nature from egoistic to altruistic happens under the influence of the special force of nature, the upper force that returns to the source (the Torah). However, for this it is necessary to attract such an influence on ourselves.

The method of the wisdom of Kabbalah is designed to attract the Light of correction to us to help us to walk this path until our complete change.

When a person develops new altruistic demands, requests, and relations toward the surrounding world, then it is possible to begin building a new society, country, or world with him, but not before this.

The Bolsheviks tried to do this by force, without correcting a person. However, since people are egoists, everything ended with a big collapse, scandal, and many deaths. It is impossible to force a person to be an altruist; we cannot go against nature, we just must change it.

A society that will be formed when a person is educated in an altruistic manner will understand what it wants to create. It is a constantly developing new formation where people live in the sensation of completely different principles. Unlike the present filling of themselves, their fulfilment will come from bestowal, adhesion, connection, and love for each other and for the entire surrounding nature.

Through these relations with each other and with nature, they will feel completely different forces and connections that are called the upper world. In this new, mutual and altruistic unity, they will feel a force between them that will not press them to use each other like in our world when I look at others and want everything they have.

On the contrary, they will discover the force of bestowal and love between them, and this common force will appear to them, not as our nature, but as the Creator, because they will feel in it an upper degree, upper value, and upper will. In this way, by connecting with each other, they will begin to adhere to this upper force. This is the principle of the existence of the corrected future generation.

However, the Kabbalists warn that if we do not hurry, we will be forced to come to these states by big blows of fate that will force us to give up egoism. It will reveal itself as bringing us misfortunes, and will make us renounce it.

This is like placing poisoned food in front of a terribly hungry person. What can he do? It will be exactly this state that a person will be in before his correction.

He will not be able to use his egoism because he will see to what extent it is killing him. On the other hand, he will not have any opportunity to get up and act outside of egoism because all his thoughts, feelings, inner understanding, habits, and relation to everything, is completely consumeristic and egoistic.

Today, we gradually are beginning to build a new society, educating ourselves in our big international group, and preparing for unity based on the altruistic principles. All of humanity must come to this in the near future.
From KabTV’s “The Last Generation” 5/22/17

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laitman_232_08.jpgThe problem of loneliness enveloping the modern world is related to the inner emptiness of man. And even when a person wants to rid himself of this state, he has no idea how to do it.

This is neither taught to us by our teachers in school nor by our psychologists and psychiatrists. The fact is that they too are lonely, and that’s why they cannot help us by giving advice on how to be free of loneliness and how to bring people closer.

No one knows how to even begin to bring such extreme individualists as our contemporaries closer to each other. Here only the science of Kabbalah can help because it explains how to establish contact above our egoism so that love can cover all transgressions.

The individuality of each remains, we are not trying to break anyone; rather, we are building one more level atop our nature: a level of unity, a common roof. We, individuals, exist under this roof and we build it together for the sake of harmonious existence and a happy life.

This roof is raised on the second floor. It does not cancel our individual qualities, but only helps us build a correct connection above them. Our relationships come to exist on two different levels, that is, on the inner level, I remain isolated and infinitely distant from others, while on the “second floor,” in the common connection built between us, we lock ourselves into a circle.

Inside of me is a “straight line” and my inner personal state doesn’t concern anyone. But with respect to others, I am completely open and ready to be with everyone as one man with one heart.

This is integration above isolation; in other words, both exist at the same time. This is a new method of connection derived from the wisdom of Kabbalah, and it must be taught to humanity. External interactions are built by the method of the circle, the method of integral connection, while the inner approach refers to the person himself.

In essence, these are not two distinct methods. They turn into one because the stronger we connect between us, the more it helps us develop internally, in our individual forms. It turns out that a person’s egoism continues to develop and grow. And this is exactly what enables us to build relationships between us as we connect in a circle; we are able to do this due to the fact that we are becoming continuously more egoistic.
From KabTV’s “A New Life” 4/4/17

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Proper Upbringing

Laitman_507_04Question: In your opinion, what kind of upbringing is correct?

Answer: The proper education is when a person knows how to integrate in human society correctly. He understands people, appreciates them, treats them in a good and courteous manner, understands their weaknesses, and can gradually integrate into their society and even help them to ascend.

When education is incorrect, then a person separates and divides himself from society, and harms himself and others that way.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 1/8/17

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New Life #858 – Our Attitude to Life: Fears And Anxieties

New Life #858 – Our Attitude to Life: Fears And Anxieties
Dr. Michael Laitman in conversation with Oren Levi and Yael Leshed-Harel


Fear is a feeling of lack of filling in the desire to live, to exist, to receive, yet the feeling of deficiency helps us advance.

A person can feel safe even in the worst situations in his life, if he controls his connection with the upper Light.
From KabTV’s “New Life #858 – Our Attitude to Life: Fears And Anxieties ,” 5/23/17

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And If A Person Behaves Wickedly

Laitman_004Question from Facebook: You say that it is not necessary to correct the person but only the connections between people. But if a person behaves wickedly, is it possible to build a good connection with him?

Answer: The person by himself is like an ordinary animal; his attitude toward others is naturally, inherently evil, as it is written, “the imagination of man’s heart is evil from his youth” (Genesis 8:21). After all, the term “Adam” – Man, is determined according to his attitude toward others and toward himself.

Question: Is it possible to build a connection with him if his attitude toward others is bad?

Answer: In this case, it is necessary to put him into a society in which he will feel that he cannot communicate correctly with others, and that is why he loses out in life. He will see how the people around him behave, and through them he will understand that if he doesn’t relate to them correctly, he will not create the right connection with them with the right spiritual intention; so he will remain a beast and will end his life in an even worse state than how he began it.
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Alone In A Crowd Of A Billion, Part 1

laitman_423_03Question: Loneliness is a scourge of modern society. An inner feeling of loneliness lives in a person who is surrounded by a huge number of people. Most of all, this phenomenon is common among young people, and it is gaining momentum and strength.

Teens spend half a day at school where they are surrounded by a lot of friends, and the second half of the day, they spend on the computer in virtual social networks, and nevertheless, they all suffer from loneliness.

Another group for whom the problem of loneliness is especially acute are elderly people aged 65 and older, but generally, loneliness affects all ages. Even a small child who complains that he is bored, in fact, means that he is alone, and he has no one to play with.

Obviously, loneliness is purely an inner feeling not related to how many people are around. What is the reason that people feel lonely?

Answer: The problem of loneliness started emerging from the middle of the last century, growing more and more as humanity came to the peak of its development.

By the middle of the 20th century, man had completed the “linear” development of his egoistic nature, which lasted for thousands of years. The growth of linear egoism is over; the world has become integral and global and has turned into one small village where everyone depends on each other.

Development has contributed to the fact that today it is easy to travel from one end of the globe to the other. Before this, people traveled only for business and trade. In the modern world, everyone is commuting somewhere—flying, going—and it would seem, how can one feel lonely here? Tourism is the most developed and powerful business in the world, but at the same time, people are still lonely.

Maybe that’s why we move all the time. Perhaps we hope to fill this inner void, this inner need? But, this does not happen. On the contrary, the tourist comes to a foreign country to separate from all others even more.

It would seem that he goes on a journey to see the world, to get acquainted with other countries. But, wherever he goes, he always remains alone, feeling even lonelier than at home. The fact that the world becomes more and more connected externally and more individualistic and separated internally is a paradox.

In the same way, people are interdependent in business and work and cultures influence one another, but no one profits from it personally or feels the need or desire for it.

Egoism within a person grows individually, but at the same time, the world around us forms a global system. There is a gap between a whole and interconnected world and people who do not want to have any connection to each other. On the contrary, egoism grows in them and turns them into ever larger individualists.

Therefore, we see that modern man does not want to accept this world, and the world does not accept man. We just do not fit the framework that nature has made for us. Nature wants us to be together, bound by kind relations, but we do not want this.

The world can easily provide us with everything we need: food, clothing, medicine, housing, absolutely anything, but we do not want to unite as the world requires us to do. Instead, everyone wants to stay on their own. Some time ago, an entire family could live in one room and a few families in one house. The newlyweds lived together with their parents. But today, every adult and every child needs to have a separate room.

Modern technologies encourage this trend (naturally, they work for the consumer). As a result, everyone has a personal mobile phone and a personal email address.

Egoism evolves within a person, increasingly isolating him from others,  and forces us to think about what to do next. After all, our desire to enjoy requires a fulfillment that cannot be obtained alone only for oneself.
From KabTV’s “A New Life” 4/4/17

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Education By Example

Laitman_633_2Question: Do you think education should begin with adults and then they will educate their children, or is it preferable to begin with children?

Answer: One does not interfere with the other. When a child is educated along with his parents, who are involved in self-education, he internalizes it because an example is important for him.

The best method of education is an example without words. So, if an adult shows something to a child through personal example and explains it a little, this is the best thing.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 1/8/17

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The Person Of The Future

laitman_537.jpgQuestion: How will the society of the future be built?

Answer: In order to create a society of the future, we need people of the future. Man of the present is an egoist who instinctively cares only about himself. But not because he is bad or good; this is his nature, like a computer that is programmed by a certain program and works only one way and not another. Therefore, people of our time can build only an appropriate egoistic community.

This is what we are trying to do: to limit ourselves in some ways, to encourage socially useful deeds, to avoid socially harmful actions. This includes all sorts of incentives, prisons, punishments, and so on.

However, all this is aimed at somehow compensating for the evil nature of man, according to which he subconsciously thinks only of his own good. And not even just about the benefits, but about retrieving them at the expense of others.

And if, at the same time, one can harm others and raise oneself, this is even better because he feels he is winning. After all, we measure ourselves with respect to the rest.

The person of the future is the complete opposite to the present person. He thinks only of society, about his development, and about ascent. He understands that everything that is done for society will pertain to him too, but at the same time, he cannot think about himself, only about the environment.

He goes through a system of re-education that changes his nature, and begins to think about others, about society, and about himself only as a performer of something for the benefit of others and the society. That is, he completely changes his internal program.
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Education Of Boys And Girls

laitman_614Question: Is there a difference in the education of boys and the education of girls?

Answer: The education of boys and girls can be joint, but the upbringing should be separate, because you raise a man and you raise a woman. These are different systems.

Throughout history in all countries of the world, upbringing was carried out separately, because people understood that such concepts as friend, love, friendship, closeness, and alienation are perceived by men and women in completely different ways.

A woman won’t understand what the concepts of friendship, closeness, and support mean for a man. She has a totally different system of perception.

This issue must be addressed very seriously. Being two completely different systems, we need different description of the method for men and for women.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 1/8/2017

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laitman_629_3Question: How is it possible to correct a 60-year-old adult who had a completely wrong upbringing since birth?

Answer: The age of a person is unimportant. You don’t know how much time still remains for him to live; people today live to a hundred years or more. Let them be corrected.

Question: Is education possible without information?

Answer: Certainly! After all, information is knowledge about the fundamentals of mathematics, physics, chemistry, and other subjects.

Question: How is it possible to talk about educating parents if they don’t feel a need for it?

Answer: To raise a child, they will need to educate themselves.

Question: What can be called love?

Answer: Love is the right attitude toward others, for their benefit.

Question: How important is education through labor from the point of view of Kabbalah?

Answer: Effort is primary; work on yourself. This is specifically the real effort, and all the rest will be left for robots.
From the Kabbalah Lesson in Russian 1/8/17

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