Question: Is the war between men and women going on in order to eventually bring us to the complete mutual complement?
Answer: One can’t exist without another. Initially the Creator created a man and a woman, two forces, plus and minus, in order for us to complement each other. We can’t exist without each other. But we ourselves need to implement this mutual complement and all of life is concentrated on it.
If we didn’t have to build a connection between us, there would be no need to live on this planet. The meaning of life is to learn to connect in the perfect ideal form because by making up for each other we reach a perfect state, as it is said: “A man and a woman and Shechina between them.”
It means that the upper force is revealed between them, but only on the condition that this man and woman correctly unite with each other.
It is not about a particular man and woman, but about these concepts as a collective image that includes all male and all female qualities. When correctly connected to each other, they precisely, in this form, reveal the upper force, the upper complete and eternal life.
Through this it becomes apparent that we are facing the most tremendous central problem and that the whole world was created with it in order for us to solve it. And through this solution we will understand a solution for the whole of reality.
But most of the time we try to run away from this game because we don’t understand what to do with it. Everyone in his private life, in his family, tries to mask this conflict as if everything is in order. While inside the family relationship hides an abyss of problems.
We don’t even know what the ideal relationship between a man and woman is. We are so opposite to each other that a lifetime will not be enough to fulfill all requests of the opposite sex. And a man, in general, is not adapted to understand a woman and doesn’t want to meet her halfway. And here should come the correction.
Also a woman in her requests of a man can be so annoying and demanding, as she feels her dependency on him, that possibly this as well requires correction. Not in terms of distancing from him but in reconstructing her demand into a different form regarding the goal that she doesn’t yet have.
Question: Throughout all of history women try to reach some kind of balance in the relationship with men and therefore are fighting for their independence and equality. Does each side need to reach independence in order to connect with each other afterward?
Answer: In this way we grow apart from each other and run away from solving the problem. It is becoming fashionable to be unisex and to neglect the family. We don’t want to understand that through connection between us we can reach absolute eternal special life. Instead of it, we perceive this connection as a problem we need to run away from by all means. As a result, in the modern world we have a lot of single men and women. We meet whenever we feel like it, doesn’t matter when, how, and with whom. We seemingly lower the importance of the connection between men and women to sex, limiting it to only the satisfaction of sexual needs.
But this is totally wrong. After all, there needs to be a system of sensory, emotional relationships that turns us into one soul through mutual complementation. It means it has to be on the totally different level, not on the animate degree, which is based on bodily needs.
I don’t deny necessity of the sexual relationship—a normal human being can’t do without it. But we need to raise the connection between a man and woman to the level of souls so that the Shechina, the upper force, will dwell between them. We have to unite for this goal because only through the correct connection between us can we attain heavenly life.
Initially in the Garden of Eden, the man and woman were as one, the way the Creator created them. But then the Creator banished them from heaven by distancing them from each other and therefore they descended from the Garden of Eden to our world where each one exists separately.
Now if we correctly connect with each other in order to be with one heart, we will rise back to the Garden of Eden, to the state where we will feel our life as eternal and complete!
This is precisely the way to heaven. I don’t understand why people think that there are different methods to get there. Humanity is deeply mistaken thinking that it can reach heaven by performing religious traditions. We have to build correct relationships here on this planet, and precisely through them, as it is written in the Torah, we will return back to heaven.
What is the Garden of Eden? It is a man and a woman who again became one human being, living in one joint desire, inside which dwells the upper force, the Creator.
From KabTV’s “A New Life” 3/31/16