Question: If I correct myself to the extent that I can love my husband unconditionally, no matter what he is like, would I still see his shortcomings?
Answer: If I ask the force from above to correct me and help me see my spouse without any conditions, then I see him completely corrected. This is called “Love [1] will cover all crimes.”
Similarly, a mother does not see any flaws in her child since to he is the best, smartest, and most attractive.
Question: So I rise above my displeasure of a certain quality of my husband, ask to correct my attitude to love, and then suddenly it seems good to me?
Answer: The only way to come to love is by correcting yourself. I am not trying to overlook my partner’s flaws and deceive myself, but I rise above them, as I want to love him as he is.
But correction needs to start with love of friends [2]. Until we begin to correct the relationships between all of us, we will not be able to correct the relationships within a family. This is why the institution of the family is falling apart and will continue to deteriorate further. It will come to the point where children will be killing their parents, and parents will be devouring their own children in the most literal sense.
Comment: But people are seeking romantic love, not love of friends.
Answer: This is because people are looking for material, egoistic love, which they will never find. Love exists only above egoism [3], and one should look for it inside oneself.
There is no need to look for an attractive object to love. The moment I realize what true love is, I should look for a partner who also understands how to achieve it.
And in that case, it does not matter whether or not we like each other’s appearance. I would come to a wise person and tell him about my desire to marry, and he would find me a suitable partner with whom we can build a correct family.
Such spouses want to find love that is above them. This is why they are not concerned about their spouse’s face or character, but only their willingness to build a relationship of mutual love that is above all shortcomings. They understand that each one needs to correct oneself, and in that measure, they will come closer and connect.
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From KabTV’s “A New Life” 8/30/15
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