Kabbalah On Family Relationships
Three questions I received on marital relationships:
Question: In your blog post, “Don’t Look For Love In This World,” your advice is, “Don’t look for truth, justice, loyalty, and love in marital relationships.” So my question is, what are we supposed to look for in marital relationships, and how are we supposed to be partners without expecting to receive loyalty and truth?
My Answer: I see that within our global Bnei Baruch group, many people worldwide find spouses and are happy, because their common goal eliminates all the disagreements.
Question: I have been studying Kabbalah for two years. My husband and I have been married for almost twenty years. My husband refuses to have a physical relationship with me and shows very little affection or desire towards me. He believes that I should adapt to this, but I wasn’t told prior to our marriage that this would be a condition in our relationship. I have been depressed about this situation for a long time. I was hoping you could explain it from a Kabbalistic perspective: How should a man act toward his wife when it comes to a couple’s physical relationship in marriage?
My Answer: This is not a question you should be asking a Kabbalist, because Kabbalah talks only about how to restore your relationship with the Creator. By definition, Kabbalah is the revelation of the Creator to man in this world. It does not have anything to say about people’s relationships on the animate level.
Question: How does Kabbalah view marriage between elder women and younger men?
My Answer: Kabbalah has no view on it. It depends only on the people.
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It’s interesting to see so many people seeking out relationship advice through the means of Kabbalah teachings. Nice to see people keen to understand, but slightly baffling!
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Your comment that Kabbalah has no view on older women and younger men is confusing to me… I recently heard a Chassidish rabbi speak about this issue from the Kabbalistic perspective… he said that in Kabbalah a man is considered a mashpiah (an influencer or giver) and a woman is considered a mikabel (a receiver)… he said that the mikabel (woman) should be larger than the mashpiah (man)… meaning it’s actually better when the woman is older … I asked him to explain more and I’m awaiting his next shiur… perhaps you have some insight on what he’s saying… thank you